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Romance in marriage is like the gentle breeze that fans the embers of a camplight fire bringing tiny sparks of flames here and there. The west has provided it's version of romance and this wave has swept across other parts of the world and of course in Africa. We see a handful of Millenials and the Gen Z'ers play out romance sequences that could have been straight out of a Mills and Boons story BUT... If we are totally honest with ourselves, these do not represent the whole rather they are a very small cross-section making us ask the question "How do the rest express themselves". We grew up in Africa seeing our parents play out a script on romance that was lack-lustre and bland. This was picked up by many and it has become their default mode when the camera's aren't flicking, friends aren't watching or it's not for social media. Below is an excerpt i stumbled upon and had to include it into my post because it perfectly explained the default state of romance in Africa. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Many marriages are just for sleeping and waking up, raising kids and ageing together till death comes. This is not right. Marriage must be enjoyable and romantic. 1.Many couples hardly kiss and they only hug each other when they receive good news. 2. The husband only puts food in his wife's mouth only when she is terminally ill and cant feed herself. 3. If you see a man opening car door for his wife means the door is faulty. 4. The only thing that makes an african man touch his wife's neck is when she complains of fever. He wont touch it again till the next fever. 5.The only time he can carry his wife on his arms is when she is in labour. 6. If you see them seated outside at night, dont think they are romantic. They are only waiting for the smell of insecticide to vanish. 7.Many wives buy gifts for their husbands only when they are hospitalized. 8.The only time they race together is when there is danger and everyone is running. 9.The only time they go for evening stroll is when they want to go and lay a complain to the parents of the person that beat their child or got their daughter pregnant. 10. The only time they bath together is when both are late for work. 11. The only time a wife looks closely to her husband's eyes is when he complains of dirt in his eyes. Unfortunately, Africans feel that any romantic man is being controlled by his wife. They will begin to spread bad rumours. Let us just change today for the better. Let us learn to love one another and enjoy the few days we have on earth together. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> On a closing note, i believe things would play out better for couples if men could become a bit more humane, women, drop a bit of the ultra-feminism and let's enjoy ourselves as couples (ie married couples).

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