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Every Cheating Partner MUST be doing 4 of these 13 things. Did i omit anything?

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My topic for today is “Every Cheating Partner MUST be doing 4 of these 13 things”. A topic i’m going to shed some light on because it’s become somewhat of a pressing need. Every Affair has a reason for beginning and in another article i wrote i described types of affairs and how to protect yourself from them

Sometime in 2018 after a workshop in Sandton. A gentleman walked up to me, greeted and asked. “Can you give me a couple of signs that show my partner may be cheating on me”. I was taken aback because back home in Nigeria this was fast becoming a fairly regular question as well.

It’s an amazing thing sitting in a quiet corner during a criminal questioning session and getting paid afterwards for deciphering body language. Talking to an inmate who obviously is telling the truth and deserves nothing about his current circumstances. Infact it’s exciting speaking to people and being able to help them unpack emotions and thoughts. However, the worst tragedy that can befall a human being is being able to read, interpret and predict human intention to an uncomfortable degree. This is simply because you will approach the relational aspect of your personal life with caution. Your most enjoyable moments will come when you drive, fly or simply go to remote places hundreds of miles away from familiar or simply decide to relate with someone without attempting to read them. This is the reason it’s a bit puzzling when humans try to find out the same things that could topple everything else.

In my young career I get asked a lot of questions but nothing as often as this line. “Temple, how can i know if my partner is having an affair?” People need to know this so badly that they are willing to pay for this. Unfortunately, payment collected for advice that has no intention of helping solve an existing problem seems to me “a Judas Fee”. Rather than that, I decided to write about every classic tell-tale sign gathered across years of licensed practice. While these may be my opinion, I would advice you take it with a pinch of salt as we do not want you mislabeling the behavior of a loved one.(that’s my disclaimer). Without wasting time, here are my thoughts and these are for both dating and married couples.

Your Partner Is May be Cheating if,

A) A spike in Sexual interest or A lack of interest: There is an emotional detachment required to cheat. With those detachments the first things that go are those intimate nuances such as solid eye contact and kisses. Like some punishment they give themselves for cheating, they withdraw these from the relationship unconsciously because they have broken the trust that once existed. For others, you will notice that gifts and more sex are being given to you as over-compensation. Once any of these scenarios strike you as odd, then there is most likely an issue. Excuses may follow such as, the stress with the children, I’m so tired, work just got hectic etc. When this triggers a feeling of being alone and rejection, your fears may be real.

B) An Obsession with a Device (phone or laptop): When the work-related emergencies pile-up and business partners are hot buzzing their phones for discussions that need to happen behind closed doors you may need to worry. When having an affair, there is an obsession that tugs both ways. Like high-school teenagers in love, anxiety sets in when they can’t communicate and they can’t wait to contact each other “against all odds”. You “the one being cheated on” are the odds. In extreme cases, affair partners would have their lovers within eye-shot by inviting them to events they would be attending with their spouses. This gets the adrenaline levels spiking and the excitement is like a drug both parties require to keep ticking.

C) Your Partner’s Moral Compass Suddenly Comes Correct: When your partner suddenly starts quoting verses, becomes pious, throws them-self into charitable activities please look really well. If there was no Near Death Experience, a spiritual encounter or a life altering situation to trigger all of this, you may just be right in the middle of a P.R campaign. Imams, pastors, counselors, teachers, parents are not above temptation. The devil quotes the qua ran and bible too. If the partners actions do not match up with the newfound ways you are most likely a support character in a play. A play that’s all about a human’s struggle to attempt living correctly by at least talking like it while hoping their morals catch up.

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D) No Ring: Many veteran cheaters no longer fall for this one but some pee-wee ones still forget to slip it back on. If this does happen and you get feedback such as i think i lost weight and it keeps falling off, it’s triggering my allergy etc. you may just have a bigger issue on your hands. You also need to know your partner and their behavioral patterns, spending patterns and what their scale of preference is. e.g. when a wife who thinks you spent much on a new dress spots an expensive necklace you didn’t buy for her, that’s something. Yes’ she could afford it with her own cash but the logic is in the fact that she doesn’t like spending much on frivolities. That’s the focus.

E) Off-guarded Name-drops & Innocent Consistent Banter about Someone: When the clouds are filled with vapor they release rain and in this same manner, when the brain is obsessed with a thing, it spills names, events or places. There’s a twisted form of excitement the cheating partner feels talking about their affair partner or having them around. Many individuals having affairs have their cheating mate right under their partners nose or have them making eye contact right at that event both of you attended. That’s the pull of an affair. Many may not agree right off the cuffs but that’s ok. In your quiet time when it’s just you, the walls and your emotions do give it another thought. When an individual (especially someone who has cheated before) mentions names of new restaurants they’ve been to, a name of a person etc. they just want you to share in their sick excitement. When you hear things like Mr. X’s wife is making life so hard for him or Mrs. P had even mentioned how sweet a person you are, understand that most humans are too deep into themselves to make out time for others. So when this happens, it’s based on a connection and not just random talks. You might be lucky to have that one great friend who is of the opposite sex but 90% of the time, straight heterosexual men and women can’t just be friends.

F) Money Lies: When your partner is in charge of the finances without you being involved, it could be for a lot of reasons. An article I wrote on Financial Infidelity mentions a lot of these reasons but let’s single out one of it. An affair. When finances becomes a topic not up for discussion, it’s usually followed up with secret accounts, secret debit cards you do not know about and a lot more. It’s never a bad thing asking your partner for clarification as it regards both your finances and no one should make you feel bad for doing so. It’s your right even if they are making more money. Secondly, if you observe payment receipts that do not tally with your partners routine (club, hotels, strip bars, areas near red-light buzz spots etc.), it might be cause for concern especially when they give bogus and almost unbelievable stories on why they had the receipts. 

G) Little Lies & (not-so) Elegant Excuses: Lying is a defense mechanism we learn as children. We know it’s bad and most times rather than tell a lie, most would rather give an excuse. This is a much better moral pill than going all out and lying. When a partner starts cheating, they cannot avoid excuses first and subsequently all out lies. The problem is that there is only a number of lies the human brain can keep up with. A human having an affair will tell lies but watch out for the little lies that don’t add up because the more complicated a lie gets, the weaker it’s base becomes. The little inconsistencies are what you should be concentrating on and not the superfluous yarn. Being called someone elses name, not being called your name too, Word’s like “Are you saying i’m lying”, “Don’t you remember?I already said this to you before” or that laughter/smug smirk that makes you feel like the shittiest emotionally dependent runt are all signs. I’ve seen it all play out before me only to discover she/he were just practicing for their Oscars.

H) Anger and Violence Meant to Distract: The shame and guilt that comes with cheating are always looking for expression.

“Pain that you do NOT transform MUST be transmitted” – Father Richard Rohr

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These usually shows up in the most twisted mix of emotions. Rebellious defiance, anger and outright rage. The people on the receiving end are usually the ones who they secretly despise or resent for being committed, stable & trustworthy. Everything they currently aren’t. Most times you know this is the case with you if you are constantly always walking on glass around your own home, spouse or partner. One minute they are so angry, the next they are relaxed, then five minutes later withdrawn. You are only battling something known as the sin cycle. The aggression and fights are simply their ways of justifying the affair. They sell themselves a narrative about the committed partner such as you’re too emotional, uptight, not sexually appealing or anything else that will give them the opportunity to pack a bag and find solace in the arms of their lover where they can complain about you.

N.Bno let’s make it B.S : If you are having an affair, the least you can do is try not to use your committed partner as your reason for straying especially if you know it’s not true. Be man or woman enough to tell yourself the truth as this will firstly, help you negotiate the curve faster and maybe get on the road to recovery and secondly retain your partners dignity in the eyes of your lover. A portion of the lies that the rumour mills are agog with about people come from disgruntled mistresses or gigolos whose love interests have moved on but not without telling stories about their partners.

“Your Affair partners will ALWAYS change BUT the impressions and lies you told about your committed partner will never be corrected. It only gets corrected when you get found out on a public scale…It never ends well.”

For the man or woman cheating with someone’s partner/wife/husband here’s my honest advice to you. “Never Believe A Word”. A woman will say anything to get what she needs from you and a man will eat grass to get between your legs. Those moments with them though intimate are not the best times to gauge honesty as a majority erroneously believe. This is why the most functional courtesans and gigolos such as Madame de Pompadour, Nell Gwynn, Marie DuPlessis, Phaedo of Elis, Febbo di Poggio (Michael Angelo’s Lover) etc were the ones who knew how to separate the erotic from the emotional.

I) Frequent Travel: The “I’m going on a trip” line is one most committed partners have come to dread because it’s one of those scenarios that leaves them clueless on what their partner may be getting up to. Let’s dive into facts… We all know that the more frequently a partner travels the higher their chances of straying because travelling by itself has a momentary feeling of relief and freedom even if it’s work-related. Having established this fact, you may have an issue when your spouse or partner drops off the face of the planet every-time they travel. With all the FREELY available means of communication now within our grasp, there are only a few excuses that can now hold water when you are incommunicado. Here are somethings that may imply foul play especially for individuals who have given you reasons before now to doubt them.

  1. When your partner travels and have to contact you first because you’re unable to reach them when you try calling.
  2. When a partner is at a location different from where they say they are going to. Always take note of the background noises. A Yoruba song playing in the background when your husband is on a trip to Enugu is very possible but what are the chances? I can’t say.
  3. When travel trips suddenly get extended because “some meetings were re-scheduled”, “ad-hoc arrangements were made” etc.
  4. Taking into consideration the time zone your partners location is in, watch if they always call before dinner/nightfall and talk about having an early night. You might actually have have just been “handled” by someone with plans for an evening of debauchery.
  5. When you do not have the vessel number, hotel name or how long a trip may be for, red flags should go up.

J) I’m not a Public/Social/Social Media Person: This is one trait that has sheltered and saved lots of marriages. When one or both partners are not in the habit of displaying their life on social media they become elusive targets. However, when this is mentioned by a partner especially at the onset of a relationship, go the extra mile to find out if this is wholly true. This is simply because anyone who isn’t particularly proud to be associated with you on social media or hides their relationship with you may be prouder to be seen with some other person. It could also be that they aren’t willing to be seen with anyone to give off an impression that they are unattached. Do you know their family members and associates? Do they even have any family members in your opinion? Are most of the dates at home or occur at night in clandestine spots with a table located at the most hidden spots? Then you most likely aren’t number one or run the risk of having number one seeing you with their partner.

K) Oddities that that Stick Out: When it comes to cheating, even the all-time greats slip up and so will a cheating partner over time. When a partner decides to become observant, that is when they start noticing those little oddities that speak loudest. After a quick romp in the car, the seat may be reclined at a rather unusual angle than what your partner ordinarily puts it in. The car A.C vent may be turned off on the passenger side by a side-piece who doesn’t like the cold. Infact the shirt might have a little strand of flashy orange strand of hair different from your natural black. Outings like late-night cinema visits you can’t remember. The list goes on and on but the whole idea is to be observant.

L) The Mobile Phone: This is the latest addition of how to spot a cheater. Initially it was that odd stammering or that lipstick stain. However with the apps, communication tools etc. available on the mobile device, cheating has never been easier and convenient. Handing over a phone to your partner should never be a problem neither should taking a call or reading a torrent of texts coming in but because a lot of people have erased certain moral lines with their phone habits, it’s a difficult thing to do. A pass worded phone is one that’s suspect (Yes, i believe your phone is yours but if you password your phone so a partner can’t access it then all isn’t well. Please note, emotional, financial, verbal and fantasy are all types of cheating). A partner with a second phone is also a concern and someone who has a previous history of cheating should be looked into when multiple sim-cards start showing up. Other tell-tale signs of a cheating partner are phone calls taken in the car, on the driveway before they come into the house or behind locked doors in any room. Even if a partner takes their call in front of you, observe their body language when you move towards them. 

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LET’S TALK. I Become Something Else by Night (Double Lives)

M) Working Late: We understand that sometimes work may pile up and demand extra hours. However, if this becomes highly unpredictable, requires them dropping off a colleague of the opposite gender then you should be on high alert. A sure-fire sign is usually coming home without any interest in dinner. There’s no shame in driving to your spouse or partners office with dinner or just passing by to say hi and then calling them while you are there. If they are having a meal with a potential business associate/ client in the evenings, there is nothing absolutely wrong with that if you are in the know (i.e. if you’re emotionally mature and not work yourself into a jealous rage). Asides from this scenario, no employee should be alone with a colleague of the opposite gender way past office hours (I’m talking 7pm and above). If your company allows that time for reconciliations, that is terrible company policy that could open up an avenue for extra-marital affairs.


 

Now that you confirmed, What next?

Human beings usually get to a point where they change because they simply decided to. Even a partner caught in the very act may not just change. The excitement, fantasy, false validation and feeling on invincibility (false again) that affairs offer are way too strong for most cheaters. Even when they say they are sorry, it may be for a moment and only because they got caught. If you push too hard especially in a relationship, they simply replace you with someone more gullible. For cheaters who are addicted to the thrill and the sex, i can assure you that the repairs required go beyond the infidelity because cheating most times opens up it’s victims to other vices such as spousal abuse, excessive drinking, marital rape and much more. All these other vices gives almost the same false highs derived from cheating. If you are not ready for the work involved in rehabilitating a cheating spouse, it’s best you move on because it involves quite a bit of work. If you have decided to move on, one of the first things you need to do is get an STI test, begin collating evidence required in court and take the bold step of moving on. However if you want to stay and work on the relationship, Click here for my article on how to rebuild trust after an affair.

Well, these are some of the signs I’ve noticed over these past years in my career talking to people who cheated and the ones who were cheated on. As always, i hope this piece on “signs my partner may be cheating on me” helped someone. I feel better dropping it here rather than saying it to one person. It levels out the playing field for everyone. If you are struggling with an affair and would love to talk about it, You know how to reach me. Don’t wait until you get caught, your career crashes, your family life dis-integrates or your squeaky public image gets dented before seeking help.

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Answers by Obike Temple

A Counselor, psychotherapist, brand-Sage and entrepreneur who has counseled over three-hundred couples, individuals, substance abuse and grief-stricken clients.

For more information on related issues and to schedule an appointment with “Temple’s Counsel” visit our counseling page, chat us up via our website or send a whatsapp message to +2348109055475.

International Appointments across Africa are scheduled within 24 hours. 

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Ten Tips for Enjoying the Holidays

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Follow these 10 tips to make the most of your holiday season. Your feelings about the holidays are very personal. They can cause us to feel happy, sad or ambivalent. The holidays can also cause stress because of:
  • Overscheduling, overindulging and overspending
  • Too much time with family or not enough
  • Multiple caregiving roles
  • Personal or family illness
  • Work demands
  • Expectations of what you should do
  • Seasonal affective disorder or depression

No matter how you feel, the following tips can help you enjoy the holidays as much as possible.

  1. Reflect on what is important to you during the holidays. This may change over time, but thinking about what you want for this holiday season will help you choose more intentionally about who you would like to spend time with and how you would like to spend the time. It’s hard to have a meaningful holiday if you don’t determine ahead of time what will give it meaning.
  2. Make a plan as early as possible about what you will do during the holidays. Try to plan at least one activity that is important to you for each holiday that you celebrate. Feel free to initiate activities with family and friends. Consider volunteer activities. Making a plan well in advance can give you something to look forward to and help you feel a greater sense of control.
  3. Communicate clearly how others can assist or support you. Accept offers to help shop, wrap or cook. Some people may not know how best to help, especially if your needs and desires have changed from last year. Most people are happy to help as long as they understand clearly what you want and they have enough time to provide the support.
  4. Realize the holiday season is a marathon, not a sprint. In other words, pace yourself. While extra social gatherings can be exciting, you don’t want to compromise your physical or mental health by doing too much. Acknowledge that you cannot do everything for everyone. Practice saying “no” without guilt. Allow yourself the opportunity to grieve the loss of giving up some activities.
  5. Maintain a healthy lifestyle. Try your best to make good food choices and relax to restore energy.  Your endurance will be better if you can stick to your daily routine as much as possible, including exercise.
  6. Manage your spending. It’s easy to feel the pressure of consumerism during the holidays. Decrease the financial stress by making and sticking to a budget. Thoughtfulness need not come with a hefty price tag. Gift solutions include: reducing the number of gifts; initiating a gift exchange; giving to a favorite charity in family members’ names; and providing gift certificates for babysitting, snow shoveling, a home-cooked meal, or time together. Gift cards can also be purchased for small amounts and the receiver will enjoy thinking of you as he or she enjoys a cup of coffee or music download “on you.”
  7. Monitor alcohol and medications – individually and together. It’s easy to overindulge in alcohol during the holidays. Moderation is key so that your balance and emotional well-being are not negatively impacted. If you do not usually drink alcohol, consider beforehand how alcohol and your medications may interact, especially if you’re taking a new medication or an increased dose. Maintain your daily medication schedule. Missed doses can cause you to feel less than your best or, worse, cause a medical issue that requires emergency care.
  8. Manage your expectations for family gatherings. When multiple generations and multiple families celebrate together, it can be challenging to feel heard and understood. Be clear about what you need the most and flexible about the rest.
  9. Think ahead about stories or observations from the past as a family that you’d like to share. You may know how a specific family tradition began or have a funny story to tell about the holidays when you were a child.
  10. Reflect on what went well this holiday season and improvements you would like to make for next year.
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TikTok & Beyond: The Best Mobile Video Editing Apps

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Top videos you watch on TikTok and Instagram have often been produced on full-size PCs, but with smartphones offering more-capable video editing tools, more and more people are editing videos on the mobile devices themselves. Both Androids and iPhones now have a multitude of impressive video editing apps at their disposal. Some of the apps are template-based, requiring you to do no more than select your photos and videos to produce a compelling social video. Others give you nearly as much control as a sophisticated desktop video editing app, with tools for overlays, time remapping, motion effects, and audio editing. Here’s our take on the best of the mobile video editing lot.

 

 

Adobe Premiere Rush

3.5
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Adobe’s well-designed mobile app for Android and iOS, Rush, syncs projects to your Creative Cloud account so you can continue editing a project on Premiere Pro on the desktop, but you can use it for standalone mobile editing, too. Versions of Rush itself are available for macOS and Windows, as well. You can shoot video in the app either in a simple or advanced mode, which lets you manually set aperture and focus. Once you’ve got some content, you can add titles, soundtrack music, and graphics overlays. For vertical output like TikTok, the Auto Reframe finds the active area of landscape shots and crops accordingly. The standard adjustments for lighting and color are at your disposal, and you can add track overlays and speed changes. One thing you won’t find are project templates like those offered by other apps here. After rendering a project, you can export it directly to Behance, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube.

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Apple iMovie

Free at Apple App Store

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iMovie was among the first truly functional mobile video editors. The way it handles timelines, letting you scroll the track with your finger rather than moving an insertion point cursor like you have to do on desktop video editors, was a major helpful innovation. The app—which is only for iOS, of course—lets you manage all the standard video joining and trimming as well as tackling more advanced video editing, like green-screen compositing and speed altering. Among our favorite iMovie features is its Trailers templates, which show you exactly what kind of shots to insert. Another plus—you can continue editing projects on a desktop Mac in iMovie or Final Cut Pro.

Only available for iOS.

 

 

Canva

4.0
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Canva targets small business owners who want to up their social media game to promote products and services. It’s completely template-based and loaded with stock content so that you don’t have to worry about being a pro editor to make things look nice. It lets you make something without needing a single shot of your own. But you can, of course, use your own video clips and photos, as well as do fancy things like stacking simultaneous videos in a vertical layout or use overlays that you can crop. That said, the app lacks some basic video editing features like adjusting light and colors. You can think of it more as the video equivalent of a graphics design application, with strengths in text, shapes, and borders. Canva is available for free use, but many of its features, stock content, and templates require a Pro subscription, which also adds collaboration features for design teams.

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CapCut Video Editor

4.0
Free at Apple App Store

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This well-designed free app (owned by TikTok creator ByteDance) makes short work of creating shareable videos, thanks to its ShortCut option. With CapCut, you select clips and photos, and the app adds background music and effects. It added a video shake effect and flame overlays to one test video, but it took a couple minutes to render 30 seconds worth of clips on my Samsung Galaxy S21 Ultra. You can split clips, add text, remove backgrounds from shots with people, and even use overlays with transparency. When you’re done, the suggested place to share your work is —you guessed it—TikTok.

Available for both Android and iOS.

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InShot

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InShot is a fun-looking app that lets you produce not only video compilations but also collages and photo edits—but that doesn’t mean it’s weak in video tools. When you start, simple help tips show you how to split and trim clips, zoom in on the timeline, and swap clip positions. One of its strengths is that it gives you a number of stickers to overlay on your videos, in addition to text. Unlike competing video app Splice, InShot lets you easily position your overlays either by dragging the item around with a finger. Picture-in-picture, masking, cropping, and speed changing (including one-click freeze frame) are all at your disposal, as are a generous helping of transition styles. Surprisingly, the app even offers keyframe editing, which lets you animate effects. Background music is available to add from a decent library of stock, but there’s no image stock. The app is free with ads and watermarks on your output; you can remove ads for a one-time $3.99 or better, remove both ads and the watermarks—as well as getting more effects and stickers—for $2.99 per month, $9.99 per year, or $29.99 for forever.

Available for Android and iOS.

 

 

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Splice

Free at Apple App Store

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Splice has just about the slickest interface of any mobile video editing app, with a clear workflow and all the tools you could want. You can easily create picture-in-picture overlays (with transparency), chroma keys, masks, and speed changes. The app also supports HDR output. Nifty transitions are at your disposal as well as glitch and vintage effects and tons of text styles. You don’t get quite as much stock content or objects to overlay as you do in PowerDirector’s mobile app, though Splice’s music library is excellent. The price, is a bit steep, however, starting at $2.99 per week or $9.99 per month.

Available on Android and iOS.

 

 

Vimeo Create

Free at Vimeo

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Vimeo is the video hosting service used largely by movie and video professionals. In addition to hosting videos, the company puts out a screen capture program called Vimeo Record and a mobile video editing app called Vimeo Create. Vimeo Create makes it easy for marketers or just regular folks to put together a compelling piece of video. The template-based app is free, but some templates require a $24.99-per-month Pro account. Accounts can also take advantage of stock libraries of video and music. Luckily, you can filter template options to find the free ones. Adding video can be slow, but the app emails you when it finishes processing. The app lets you add stickers and text with animations, and it automatically applies template-based transitions. It doesn’t offer much in the way of detailed editing options like keyframes, overlays, or time remapping. Many of the stickers and styles are suitable for creating engaging sales and marketing quick takes, so this highly automated tool is best suited for people in those fields who want to produce something good-looking without getting into the weeds of video editing.

Available only for Android.

 

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Wondershare FilmoraGo

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Wondershare makes Filmora desktop video editing software for macOS and Windows as well as this full-featured freemium mobile app for Android and iOS. You can get started with FilmoraGo by shooting video with your smartphone, using a template, or starting from scratch. When you choose a template, everything is done for you—you just have to add the specified number of photos or video clips. The full editor is clean-looking and powerful, with tooltips like Make This Video Cooler, which takes you to the bountiful transition options. Loads of effects, stickers, and background music tracks come with the app, and a voiceover button makes narration simple. You can choose a blending mode for overlays, but there’s no chroma key option. You can change speed and apply a one-tap freeze frame effect. The free version applies a Filmora watermark and limits you to 720p resolution, which is okay for phone viewing.

Available for Android and iOS.

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What is The Best and Worst Sleeping Position?

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Original Article by sleepreports.com

Chances are, you’ve never really given your sleeping position much thought. You may even be wondering if it makes any difference at all to your overall wellbeing.

After all, most of us have been sleeping in the same position since childhood, and it’s probably a deeply ingrained habit that comes to us as naturally as breathing. On the other hand, if you’re frequently waking up feeling tired, achey or poorly rested, you may have questioned whether your sleeping position has a part to play.

You may be surprised to learn that your sleeping position has the power to either positively or negatively affect your sleep, and your overall health. If you always wake up feeling rested and pain-free, then chances are you are already sleeping in the right position for you.

However, if you’re one of the many people who wakes up feeling less than fantastic, your sleeping position is something you may well wish to evaluate. This leads us to an important question: what are the best, and worst, positions to sleep in? We’ve created an article to answer just that, so read on to discover how to make your sleeping position work for you and your health.

What Makes A Good Sleeping Position?

What is The Best and Worst Sleeping Position? (Important Rules)As unique individuals, there is not one ‘magic position’ that will work for every person. This depends on you, your health, and what feels comfortable to you personally. However, there are a few key ingredients to a great sleeping position.

1. It Feels Comfortable.

If you want to wake up feeling refreshed in the morning, being able to relax at night is a must. The number one factor in determining a good sleeping position is that it feels comfy and cosy, allowing you to nod off quickly and stay asleep through the night.

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2. It Allows Good Airflow And Circulation.

When you’re asleep, it’s vital that you can breathe deeply and properly, and that blood flow to all parts of your body is unrestricted. There are some positions that facilitate this better than others.

3. Your Neck And Spine Is In Alignment.

In order to avoid pain and discomfort, it’s vital that our spine is in healthy alignment. Many of us are familiar with the achey feeling that comes with sleeping in an awkward position. If you’re waking up suffering from discomfort in your neck or back, this could be a sign that it’s time to reevaluate your sleeping position.

4. Your Joints Are Properly Supported.

A decent sleeping position is one that puts no undue pressure on your joints and supports your body. As you will know if you have read any of our content on mattresses, this partly comes down to your bed. However, your sleeping position also has a part to play in properly supporting your joints.

What Position Should I Be Sleeping In?

What is The Best and Worst Sleeping Position? (Important Rules)As we mentioned above, there is no one perfect position that will work for everyone. Many factors affect which sleeping position, including your weight and any health conditions. When you’re thinking about what position you should be sleeping in, you should know about the three main positions and their advantages and drawbacks.

Side Sleeping

If you sleep on your side, then you are like the majority of people. Most people find that nodding off on their side is the easiest way to fall asleep. But is it the best position?

There are several key advantages to sleeping on your side. Firstly, it allows good airflow and deep breathing throughout the night. This means that you consistently get the oxygen that you need all night long.

Also, the blood flow to your organs is unrestricted in this position, making it a healthy choice. Your spine and neck are also likely to be in a healthy alignment, leading to reduced neck and back problems.

However, a major drawback of side sleeping is that it can put pressure on some of your joints. These pressure points can become sore over time, especially if you suffer from a preexisting joint complaint.

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Top Tips For Side Sleepers:

If you choose to sleep on your side, you may be wondering if there is anything you can do to improve your position. This is especially likely if you wake up in the morning feeling achey. Here are our handy hints to make your position more healthy.

  • 1. Select a softer mattress. A medium/soft to medium mattress is ideal for side sleepers, as it conforms to the contours of the body, removing pressure on your joints and reducing pain.
  • 2. Consider memory foam. This is particularly useful if you suffer from aches and pains. The special memory foam material hugs your individual shape, reliving pressure and supporting your pressure points.
  • 3. Place a pillow between your knees. If you find yourself waking up with discomfort in your neck and back, this is the tip for you. A pillow between your knees encourages your spine into a more healthy alignment, supporting your neck, back and all of your joints.

Back Sleeping

If you sleep on your back, congratulations! This is an excellent position to sleep in for many aspects of your health. Although few of us choose to sleep on our backs, it is worth considering if you are often waking up in the mornings feeling sore and uncomfortable. Back sleeping allows good airflow, and unrestricted circulation to all parts of your body.

Furthermore, it encourages your spine into a naturally healthy alignment and reduces pressure on your joints. Interestingly, some people even claim that this position reduces wrinkles, as your face isn’t scrunched up against a pillow all night!

However, if you are a snorer or suffer from sleep apnea, this position is not the best one for you. As your head is positioned above your chest when you sleep on your back, which can make your symptoms worse.

Top Tips For Back Sleepers:

So you are already a back sleeper or are considering making the switch. Perhaps you’re wondering whether you can do anything to make this position even better. Here are our recommendations for those who prefer back sleeping.

  • 1. Think carefully about your mattress firmness. If you sleep on your back, a medium/firm to firm mattress is likely to suit you best, as it provides excellent support to your joints and encourages good alignment.
  • 2. Consider a pocket sprung mattress. Because they are constructed with lots of individual springs, pocket sprung mattresses will spread your weight evenly and reduce any strain on your pressure points.
  • 3. Sleep with one thick pillow. If you place it directly under your head, it will give your neck the ideal amount of support, reducing any pain or stiffness in that area.

Front Sleeping- The Worst Position

If you sleep on your front, we really recommend that you consider switching to a different position. Although sleeping on your front can feel comfy and snuggly, there are several major drawbacks to this position.

Firstly, your neck and spine are forced into an awkward position, which can lead to aches and pains in the morning, and exacerbate any existing joint problems. Secondly, this position does not allow for the best possible airflow during the night. Finally, your organs are constricted, reducing blood flow.

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Top Tips For Front Sleepers:

As we explained above, we strongly suggest that you try not to sleep on your stomach. However, if you really can’t get to sleep any other way, there are some tips you can follow to improve this position. Here are our recommendations.

  • 1. Instead of placing your pillow under your head as usual, try propping it beneath your hips instead. This will help you to achieve a more natural spinal alignment, which should go some way to reducing those niggling aches and pains in the morning.
  • 2. Select a firm mattress. As this position is not very supportive, a firm mattress will help to give your spine and joints a much-needed helping hand.
  • 3. Opt for pocket sprung. Like back sleepers, a pocket sprung mattress could be the perfect choice for you. The individual springs will spread your weight across your mattress, reducing pressure on your pressure points and supporting your neck and back.

I Snore! Which Position Should I Sleep In?

If you snore, it’s likely that you (and your partner) would be glad to find a sleeping position that eases it. Therefore, we suggest that sleeping on your side is the best position for you. This allows the best possible airflow to help with your snoring. Front sleeping is strongly discouraged, as maximum airflow is not possible in this position.

In addition, sleeping on your back is likely to make your snoring worse, as your head is propped up higher than your chest. Finally, if your snoring is caused by sleep apnea, it is even more important that you try to sleep on your side. Consult your doctor if you have any concerns about your sleeping position and sleep apnea.

What’s The Best Position For People With Joint Problems?

If you suffer from a painful joint condition like arthritis, you’ll be pleased to know that sleeping in the right position can help. For people with painful joints, we recommend sleeping on your back. This position will encourage your neck and spine into the ideal alignment, reducing soreness in the morning. Also, back sleeping reduces pressure on your joints, keeping those achey pressure points free from unnecessary strain.

In conclusion

Now that you’ve read our handy guide, you’ll be aware that sleeping on your front is less than ideal. For many of us, sleeping on our backs may actually be the optimum position for a good night’s sleep and reduced pain and soreness in the morning.

However, bear in mind that sleeping positions are highly individual, and you should make your decision based on all the factors mentioned above. Hopefully, you are now able to select a sleeping position that will help you reap maximum benefit from your nightly slumber. Sweet dreams!

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GTBank: Domiciliary Account and International Money Transfer

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GTBank: Domiciliary Account and International Money Transfer

Domiciliary Account at GTBank Makes foreign currency transactions convenient for people. You can carry out these transactions from the comfort of your home, office, or anywhere in the world. Domiciliary accounts at GTBank are available in US Dollars (USD), Pounds (GBP), or Euro (EUR). You can fund your account via cash inflows and deposits. Also, you can make withdrawals from any GTBank branch closest to you nationwide.

 

The Benefits of Domiciliary account with GTBank

  • 24/7 Banking services via our various e-channels.
  • Cash withdrawals in foreign currency from any GTBank branch.
  • Transfer funds in foreign currency to other bank’s domiciliary accounts in Nigeria and abroad.

 

The requirement for opening a domiciliary account with GTBank

  • Filled and signed a Domiciliary Account opening form.
  • A copy of your identification document (Driver’s License, passport, National I.D Card, or any other acceptable by the bank).
  • One passport photograph on a plain background.
  • Two (2) completed reference forms.
  • Utility bill issued within the last 3 months.

 

Need Help to open a domiciliary account with GTBank?

Visit the Help Centre or Call: +234 700 4826 66328 or +234 1 448 0000

 

GTBank International Money Transfer

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The GTBank International Money Transfer (GTMT) is designed to enable both GTBank account holders and non-account holders to receive or send funds to and from any GTBank subsidiary in West Africa. In compliance with the CBN directive, recipients of funds through GTBank International Money Transfer in Nigeria must either be GTBank account holders or must be identified by a GTBank account holder.

 

Characteristics GTBank International Money Transfer

  • GTBank account and non-account holders can walk into any GTBank branch to receive or transfer funds in Dollars (USD) to and from any of our subsidiaries in Nigeria, Ghana, the Gambia, and Sierra Leone
  • Also, GTBank International Money Transfer is an effective way of paying for goods and services
  • GTBank International Money Transfer is denominated in US Dollars (USD)
  • You can make a maximum transfer of $10,000.00 in a single transfer
  • Beneficiaries can be paid in US Dollars or local currency, Cedis, Dalasi, Leone, and Naira (Beneficiaries can only be paid in local currency in Ghana).

 

Benefits of GTBank International Money Transfer

  • It is an easy, convenient, and secure means of transferring funds.
  • Ideal for GTBank account and non-account holders
  • Faster turnaround time for everyone
  • Instant access to cash
  • No documentation is required
  • Eliminates the risk of traveling with cash
  • Transfer of funds ahead of your holiday/business trip and to family members and friends for upkeep
  • Easy tracking of funds

 

Funds Transfer Instruction

For Transfer of USD ($) Into Domiciliary Account Through CitiBank New York:

  • Correspondent Bank: CitiBank, New York
  • Swift Code: CITIUS33
  • FEDWIRE/ABA NUMBER: 021000089
  • FOR CREDIT OF GUARANTY TRUST BANK PLC, LAGOS NIGERIA
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account Number with Citi New York: 36129295
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: …………………………………………………. (E.g. Sender’s Name, Reference e.t.c)

For Transfer Of USD ($) Into Domiciliary Account Through Deutsche Bank New York:

  • Correspondent Bank: Deutsche Bank, New York
  • Swift Code: BKTRUS33
  • FEDWIRE/ABA NUMBER: 021001033
  • For Credit Of GUARANTY TRUST BANK PLC, LAGOS NIGERIA
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account Number with Deutsche Bank New York: 04434658
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

 

For Transfer Of USD ($) Into Domiciliary Account Through Standard Chartered Bank New York:

  • Intermediary Bank: Standard Chartered Bank, New York
  • Swift Code: SCBLUS33
  • FEDWIRE/ABA NUMBER: 026002561
  • For Credit Of GUARANTY TRUST BANK PLC, LAGOS NIGERIA
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s A/C NO with Standard Chartered Bank, New York: 3582-026828-001
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

 

For Transfer Of USD ($) Into Domiciliary Account Through GTBank London:

  • Intermediary Bank: CitiBank, New York
  • Swift Code: CITIUS33
  • FEDWIRE Routing Code: 021000089
  • An account with Bank: GUARANTY TRUST BANK (UK) LIMITED
  • Swift Code: GTBIGB2L
  • Account Number: 36917996
  • Beneficiary Name: Guaranty Trust Bank plc Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBIGB2L
  • GTBank’s Account No with GTBank London (with GTBank London): 90110014250330
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

 

For Transfer Of USD ($) Into Domiciliary Account Through Standard Chartered Bank, London:

  • Correspondent Bank: SCB, London
  • Swift Code: SCBLGB2L
  • Sort Code: 609104
  • For Credit Of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Lagos Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • Account Number: 01 027065310 50
  • GTBank’s Account No. with CitiBank, London IBAN Number: GB90 SCBL 6091 0427 0653 10
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: …………………………………………………

 

For Transfer Of GBP (£) Into Domiciliary Account Through CitiBank, London:

  • Correspondent Bank: CitiBank, London
  • Swift Code: CITIGB2L
  • Sort Code: 185008
  • For Credit Of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Lagos Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account No. with CitiBank, London IBAN Number: GB72 CITI 1850 0850 0808 3157 95
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

 

For Transfer Of GBP (£) Into Domiciliary Account Through Standard Chartered Bank, London:

  • Correspondent Bank: SCB, London
  • Swift Code: SCBLGB2L
  • Sort Code: 609104
  • For Credit Of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Lagos Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account No. with SCB, London IBAN Number: GB90 SCBL 6091 0427 0653 10
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: …………………………………………………

 

For Transfer Of EUR (€) Into Domiciliary Account Through CitiBank, London:

  • Intermediary Bank:  Citibank Europe Plc
  • SWIFT CODE:  CITIIE2X
  • Correspondent Bank: CitiBank, London
  • Swift Code: CITIGB2L
  • Sort Code: 185008
  • For Credit Of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Lagos Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account No. with CitiBank, London IBAN Number: GB05 CITI 1850 0810 8205 71
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

For Transfer Of EUR (€) into Domiciliary Account Through Deutsche Bank Frankfurt:

  • Correspondent Bank: Deutsche Bank Frankfurt
  • Swift Code: DEUTDEFF
  • Sort Code: 50070010
  • For Credit Of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, Lagos Nigeria
  • Beneficiary’s Bank Swift Code: GTBINGLA
  • GTBank’s Account No. with Deutsche Frankfurt/ IBAN Number: DE84 5007 0010 0955 7224 01
  • For Final Credit Of: ………………………….. (Beneficiary’s Name)
  • Beneficiary’s A/C Number: ………………………….. (With GTBank)
  • Any Other Detail: ………………………………………………….

 

For more on GTBank: Domiciliary Account and International Money Transfer and to open a domiciliary account with GTBank, please visit the GTBank website

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