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Workplace Extramarital Office Affairs: How To End It maybe retain your job

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Workplace extramarital office affairs are more rampant than we think. In a work environment, sharing accomplishments, risk and intensity can open up new levels of intimacy between colleagues. The long hours put in at the office in close proximity with that colleague does not help either. If these situations aren’t handled properly it could trigger the budding of a work-place affair.

Office Extramarital Affair Facts You Should Know…

After understudying workplace affairs for a period, a pattern began to emerge. Facts that I believe everyone currently involved in or romanticizing with the idea of kicking off an office affair should know.

  • 39% of workers had relationships in the office at least once
  • 35% have kept office affairs hidden and tried to sort it out even though they knew it affected their work
  • 24% are attracted to someone of the opposite sex who had similar jobs
  • Office Affairs were most common  in the following sectors: Banking & Finance, Hospitality & Leisure, Information Technology, Healthcare, Media/Entertainment and Business Service

Only about 17% of these affairs end in marriage. The other 83% ends in personal, marital and professional problems with far reaching consequences that would be discussed in the real world by ex-colleagues many years later (when they see you). The decision to either continue with or end an extramarital office affair is something I totally leave up to you. However this article is for the latter group. The hardest part about having a workplace affair is seeing each other after you have decided to end things with an affair partner. However its not a totally lost cause because there are basic steps you could take to begin correcting this mess.

After being blessed enough to sit with individuals going through the issues associated with an office affair, i am going to give you the quickest way to end an office affair and MAYBE still get to keep your job.

Cut Down The Time Spent Together

You need to start creating some distance between yourself and this affair partner. What you will achieve with this is to gradually bring back the correct work ambience you both enjoyed before the fall (sorry, before the affair began). This is the point you need to start bringing food to the office so you don’t need to go to lunch together. When a task has been completed take your belongings and leave. When you end things quick, that is what is considered a real ending. These measures help you quickly bury the relationship. You know everywhere both of you used to bump into each other? the backroom, the cafeteria please avoid all those places when you know they would be there.

Do not expect that these evasion tact’s of yours would be welcome with an understanding nod. Harassment or blackmail might become something they resort to in a bid to get back at you for stopping something made in heaven and breaking their already broken heart. Your job at this point is to quietly gather all the messages, record conversations, take screenshots and then taking it to the company’s HR department. At this point, if your ex-affair partner is a drama king/queen who does not mind losing their job as long as they take you down with them, you have to make a quick decision to either get a new job or get transferred to another department/team. If their job is still important to them then you have to let them understand that your lawyer already has the fact file gathered and one other bleep from them would have you filing a harassment lawsuit.

 

Do Not Beat Around The Subject

Now you have done a good job at avoiding them but somehow they managed to corner you and want an explanation to what is happening. Directly tell them you are done. Do not say it in a way that makes them believe there is still hope of rekindling things with you. Inform them you want to work on your marriage and clearly state that you do not want them contacting you. This saves you loads of texts, chats, emails or phone calls on the subject. At this point, if your spouse has found out about this affair a well written break-up letter will help them stay in the loop on how things are going and shows your seriousness towards ending the affair.

Do not Allow Them Contact You Again (discard every memorabilia)

When you are having an affair Adrenaline and serotonin are two basic hormones pumping through your veins. One takes care of the pleasure and the other handles the edgy feel. This is somewhat similar to what keeps an addict constantly in a loop. This is the point you must inform your spouse that they tried to initiate contact. Having an accountability partner works at this point. If your spouse is not aware simply get a professional therapist bound by client confidentiality agreements to help you navigate this period. This is the point you limit contact via phone, personal email, social networks or otherwise, and also blocking future messages. If they got you anything burn it or give it away. This steps will help you break the urge to want to go back.

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Sort Out What’s Missing in Your Marriage

Now that you have been able to cut yourself off and maintain the discipline to sustain those decisions of yours, this is the time to work on your marriage with your spouse. My workbook on Affair recovery could help at this point because the thing your partner wants to know is not “How sorry you are”. They first want you to answer the question why. The time for apologies will come but its not the main thing. Communication must be worked on reflections around what you did wrong must happen. Then seek out a professional marriage therapist around you to assist the both of you at this point. If your partner on the other hand is not aware of the affair , then you have to make the big decision of informing your partner about what you did or not. If you finally decide not to tell your partner you have to be sure the reasons behind that decision is properly vetted because if it isn’t that could become the springboard for another affair.

Research has shown that when you confess to having had an affair a third of many relationships survive infidelity but when you have been caught it’s usually harder rebuilding trust and getting to the point of forgiveness.

To anyone out there struggling with similar issues my general advice is always this. If you feel an attraction to someone in your office, consider a transfer to a different department, a different position, or maybe you should quit. No job is more valuable than your marriage. Being honest with yourself is the first starting point. If you’re dressing real nice to catch the attention of a co-worker, you better stop before you lose it totally. Hanging around the office common areas hoping to bump into that person does not help either. Not only is it cheap especially if its just a fling for the other person its just downright wrong. If your spouse was there you would definitely not be doing all of that. That is your first boundary. Secondly if there are issues with you and your spouse and maybe you feel a bit justified doing what you’re doing, then use a spiritual boundary, If God was in front of you, would you be doing this? If this does not stop you either then my brother, my sister i drop my case. Whatever you have to hide or lie about, don’t do it at all.

This may not have been the most exciting of articles especially if you are caught up in a situation-ship as they call it at you workplace. However i just told you everything you need to help you navigate this affair and come out clean without losing your job or your home. If you’d like to let us know how this went for you, feel free to contact us via email.

Written by Obike Temple.
Temple Obike is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, author and psychotherapist who has counseled over one thousand, two hundred clients comprising of couples, individuals, abuse victims (substance, physical, emotional and sexual) and grief-stricken clients. With over 70,000 in-counseling minutes (1,000+ hours) accrued in practice.
He runs his private psychotherapy & counseling practice out of Lagos, Nigeria and has counseling centers in Abuja and Port-Harcourt. His practice also provides options for both online and on-site services. His private practice has positively empowered lives through his online counseling, podcasts, free advisory services and free online materials.  
Readership of his articles also receive a growing number of visitors alongside subscriptions to his email newsletter at templeobike.com. His passion for empowering and uncovering the secrets to lifelong marriages and personal development led to his new book titled “Soul Bodega” available on amazon and across other online and traditional stores. Never give up on yourself! You are a journey happening through various destinations. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit our website for more info!

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Web4: Revolutionizing Fintech with Real-Time Data and Enhanced Security

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The evolution of the internet from Web1 to Web4 has played a significant role in the development of the fintech industry. Each iteration has brought new capabilities and features that have enabled fintech companies to offer better services to their customers.

Web1, also known as the “static web,” was the first version of the internet. It was primarily used for information dissemination, and it played a crucial role in the early days of online banking. With the static web, banks were able to offer their customers basic information about their accounts, such as balances and transaction histories.

Web2, known as the “social web,” brought about the rise of social media and user-generated content. In fintech, Web2 enabled peer-to-peer lending and crowdfunding platforms, which allowed individuals to lend and borrow money directly from each other. Social media platforms also enabled fintech companies to reach a wider audience and build communities around their products.

Web3, known as the “semantic web,” introduced the concept of interconnected data. This enabled fintech companies to collect and analyze vast amounts of data about their customers, including their financial habits and preferences. With this information, fintech companies were able to offer personalized services, such as customized investment portfolios and budgeting tools.

Web4, the latest version of the internet, has the potential to transform the industry by enabling faster, more secure, and more personalized financial services through its decentralized structure, enhanced security measures, and real-time data processing capabilities.

Web4: Revolutionizing Fintech with Real-Time Data and Enhanced Security

The role of Web4 in the fintech industry

One of the main advantages of Web4 is its ability to process data in real-time. This means that fintech companies can provide real-time insights into their customers’ financial activities and offer personalized advice and recommendations. For example, an online investment platform could use real-time data to help its users make more informed investment decisions based on market trends and current events.

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Another key feature of Web4 is its enhanced security measures. Web4 uses advanced encryption techniques and distributed ledger technology to secure financial transactions and prevent fraud. This will give consumers greater confidence in fintech companies and encourage more people to use digital financial services.

Web4 also has the potential to facilitate cross-border payments and transactions. With its decentralized structure, Web4 can enable peer-to-peer transactions without the need for intermediaries, such as banks or payment processors. This will make it easier and more cost-effective for people to send and receive money across borders, which will benefit both individuals and businesses.

Web4: Revolutionizing Fintech with Real-Time Data and Enhanced Security

 

Furthermore, companies such as Chromepay have utilized Web4’s smart contract technology to automate many aspects of the fintech industry, such as insurance, digital verification, claims and loan approvals. Smart contracts can reduce processing times and improve accuracy, while also reducing the risk of fraud and errors.  As more companies adopt Web4 technology, we can expect to see even more innovation and disruption in the fintech niche in the years to come.

 

 

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Fintech: Transforming the Banking Industry and Shaping the Future of Finance

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Over the past few years, we have witnessed a rapid evolution in the banking industry, one of the most significant changes has been the emergence of financial technology, or fintech, which has been disrupting the traditional banking sector. Fintech refers to the use of technology to deliver financial services to consumers and businesses. The development of fintech has led to a transformation in the way financial services are provided, consumed, and managed. In this post, we will explore the impact of fintech on the future of banking.

The Rise of Fintech

Fintech has been gaining traction since the early 2000s, but it wasn’t until the financial crisis of 2008 that the sector really took off. The crisis exposed the inefficiencies and limitations of the traditional banking system, leading to a demand for more innovative and accessible financial services. Financial technology emerged as a solution to these problems, offering a new way of delivering financial services that was more efficient, convenient, and cost-effective.

Financial technology has been successful because it addresses the needs of consumers who are looking for more flexibility, convenience, and control over their financial lives. Fintech has also been attractive to investors because it promises to disrupt a highly regulated and profitable industry.

The Impact of Fintech on the Banking Industry

Fintech has had a profound impact on the banking industry. Traditional banks have been forced to adapt to the changing landscape, which has led to significant changes in the way they operate. Banks are now partnering with fintech companies to provide better services to their customers. These partnerships have allowed banks to leverage the latest technology to provide more efficient and cost-effective services.

One of the most significant impacts of financial technology on the banking industry has been the emergence of digital banking. Digital banking refers to the delivery of banking services through digital channels such as mobile and online platforms. Digital banking has become increasingly popular because it offers customers a more convenient and accessible way of managing their finances.

Another impact it has on the banking industry has been the emergence of new business models. Fintech companies are disrupting the traditional banking model by offering innovative solutions that are more tailored to the needs of consumers. For example, fintech companies are offering loans to consumers who have been rejected by traditional banks, using alternative data to assess creditworthiness.

Another benefit is that it provides more convenience and accessibility for customers. With financial technology, customers can access their accounts and manage their finances from anywhere, anytime. They no longer have to physically visit a bank branch or wait in long lines to conduct transactions. This level of convenience has made fintech services increasingly popular, especially among millennials and younger generations.

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Another significant advantage is its ability to reduce costs for banks. Traditional banking methods require significant overhead costs for maintaining physical branches, staffing, and equipment. With financial technology, banks can reduce these costs and pass on the savings to customers. This has led to the emergence of online-only banks, which offer lower fees and higher interest rates than traditional banks.

The Future of Banking

Fintech is changing the face of banking, and the future of the industry is likely to be shaped by fintech innovations. The traditional banking model is no longer sustainable in a world where consumers demand more flexibility, convenience, and control over their finances. Banks that fail to adapt to this new reality risk becoming irrelevant.

The future of banking is likely to be characterized by more partnerships between banks and fintech companies. Banks will need to leverage the latest technology to provide more efficient and cost-effective services to their customers. Fintech companies will continue to innovate, developing new solutions that address the needs of consumers who are looking for more flexible and accessible financial services.

Fintech has also made it possible for banks to offer a wider range of services. Traditional banks were limited in the services they could provide, but fintech has opened up new possibilities. Banks can now offer personalized financial advice, wealth management services, and investment opportunities. These services were previously only available to high-net-worth individuals, but fintech has made them more accessible to the general public.

The rise has also led to increased competition in the banking industry. Financial technology companies are challenging traditional banks, forcing them to innovate and improve their services. This competition is good for consumers, as it leads to better products, lower fees, and higher-quality customer service.

One of the most significant areas of financial technology innovation is in mobile banking. Mobile banking has become increasingly popular, with over 60% of Americans using mobile banking services. Fintech companies have developed mobile apps that allow customers to access their accounts, transfer money, pay bills, and even apply for loans. These apps are user-friendly and provide a seamless banking experience.

Another area of innovation is in payment systems. Fintech companies have developed payment systems that are faster, more secure, and more efficient than traditional methods. These payment systems use blockchain technology, which is a secure and decentralized ledger that ensures transparency and eliminates the need for intermediaries. This technology has the potential to revolutionize the way we make payments and could eventually replace traditional payment methods like cash and credit cards.

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The future of banking is undoubtedly tied to fintech. It has already transformed the banking industry, and it will continue to do so in the years to come. Banks that fail to adapt to this new reality will be left behind, while those that embrace fintech will thrive.

Conclusion

Fintech has had a significant impact on the banking industry, and the future of the industry is likely to be shaped by fintech innovations. Traditional banks are being forced to adapt to the changing landscape, and the emergence of digital banking and new business models is transforming the way financial services are provided and consumed. As fintech continues to evolve, we can expect even more exciting developments that will transform the way we bank and manage our finances.

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Richest Women: Meet Kenya’s Top 10 Wealthiest Women in 2023 According to Forbes

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Kenya, like many other countries, has seen an increase in the number of richest women in recent years. These women have built their wealth through various means, including entrepreneurship, inheritance, and professional success. In this post, we will take a look at the top 10 richest women in Kenya as of 2023, according to Forbes.

Dr. Catherine Nyongesa

Dr. Catherine Nyongesa
Dr. Catherine Nyongesa is among Kenya’s most affluent women due to her exceptional contributions to the health sector. As a radiation oncologist and founder of Texas Cancer Centre in Nairobi, she has bridged the gap of inadequate access to quality healthcare for many Kenyans, particularly cancer patients. Prior to the establishment of her clinic, many individuals struggled to access the necessary medical services. Despite starting her company with a one million dollar loan, Dr. Nyongesa was able to quickly repay the amount and has since become highly successful. She is worth $8million.

Tabitha Karanja

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Tabitha Karanja is the founder and CEO of Keroche Breweries, a leading Kenyan beer and spirits manufacturer. She is estimated to have a net worth of $590 million. Karanja has been recognized for her business acumen and has received numerous awards, including the Moran of the Order of the Burning Spear, a top civil honor in Kenya.

Nancy Muthoni Njenga

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Nancy Muthoni Njenga is the founder and CEO of Kenafric Industries, a leading confectionery, and footwear manufacturer in Kenya. She is estimated to have a net worth of $260 million. Nancy Muthoni Njenga is also a philanthropist and supports education and healthcare initiatives.

Wacera Marra

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Wacera Marra is among the fortuitous richest women who acquired a significant portion of their wealth through inheritance and marriage. Her wealth stems from her marriage to the late Dike Wathica, former Mayor of Nairobi. With her inheritance, Wacera invested in Spot Pesach, a major bookmaker in Kenya, where she obtained a 21% stake. This investment has proven to be lucrative, generating millions of Kenyan shillings monthly. In addition to her successful investment, Wacera is also regarded as a skilled businesswoman, with a portfolio of profitable assets. Her business acumen has undoubtedly contributed to her position among Kenya’s wealthiest women..

Mama Ngina Kenyatta

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Mama Ngina Kenyatta is the former First Lady of Kenya and widow of Kenya’s first president, Jomo Kenyatta. She is estimated to have a net worth of $50 million. Mama Ngina Kenyatta is known for her philanthropic work, which includes supporting education and healthcare initiatives.

Mary Okello

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Mary Okello is the founder and CEO of Makini Schools, a leading group of private schools in Kenya. She is estimated to have a net worth of $40 million. Mary Okello is also a philanthropist and supports education and healthcare initiatives.

Leah Wanjugu Muguku

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Leah Wanjugu Muguku is the founder and CEO of Muguku Poultry Farm, a leading poultry farming business in Kenya. She is estimated to have a net worth of $30 million. Leah Wanjugu Muguku is also a philanthropist and supports education and healthcare initiatives.

Margaret Saitoti

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Margaret Saitoti is the widow of Kenya’s former Vice President, George Saitoti. She is estimated to have a net worth of $30 million. Margaret Saitoti is known for her philanthropic work, which includes supporting education and healthcare initiatives.

Jane Wanjiru Michuki

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Jane Wanjiru Michuki is the founder and CEO of Tazama Enterprises, a leading supplier of petroleum products in Kenya. She is estimated to have a net worth of $20 million. Jane Wanjiru Michuki is also a philanthropist and supports education and healthcare initiatives.

Charity Ngilu

Meet Kenya's Top 10 Richest Women in 2023 According to Forbes
Charity Ngilu is the former Minister for Water and Irrigation in Kenya and the former Governor of Kitui County. She is estimated to have a net worth of $10 million. Charity Ngilu is known for her philanthropic work, which includes supporting education and healthcare initiatives.

In conclusion, these women have shown that with hard work and dedication, anyone can achieve success regardless.

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GPT-4: OpenAI Reveals the Latest Language Model

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OpenAI, an American artificial intelligence company, has just unveiled its latest version of the large language model, GPT-4. This latest model claims to exhibit human-level intelligence and is capable of outperforming most people’s SAT scores.

GPT-4 is an improved version of its previous language models, which have been trained with more data and more weights in its model file, making it more expensive to run. According to OpenAI, this has resulted in a language model that is capable of exhibiting human-like intelligence and problem-solving abilities. It can solve complex problems with greater accuracy, thanks to its broader general knowledge and problem-solving capabilities.

One of the most impressive features of GPT-4 is its ability to score in the 93rd percentile on a simulated SAT reading test and 89th percentile on a simulated SAT math exam, making it a remarkable feat for an AI language model. Furthermore, GPT-4 scored in the 90th percentile on a simulated bar exam. This remarkable ability has wowed many people and tech entrepreneurs, who have seen it incorporated into different tech products. Tech companies such as Microsoft and Google have incorporated the language model into their products to enhance users’ experience.

OpenAI has disclosed that it has been using GPT-4 in its company functions such as support, sales, programming, and content moderation. It is also using it to assist humans in evaluating AI outputs. However, GPT-4 still has its potential problems, like its previous models. When prompted with a question, the base model can respond in a wide variety of ways that might be far from a user’s intent. To cut down on some of these potential problems, OpenAI disclosed that it would fine-tune the model’s behavior using reinforcement learning with human feedback.

The GPT-4 base model was trained to predict the next word in a document, and it was trained using available data. The new model will be available to paid ChatGPT subscribers and will also be available as part of an API that allows programmers to integrate AI into their apps. OpenAI will charge about 3 cents for about 750 words of prompts and 6 cents for about 750 words in response.

In conclusion, OpenAI’s GPT-4 is an impressive AI language model that has exhibited remarkable human-level intelligence. Its broad general knowledge and problem-solving abilities have made it a valuable tool in different tech products. However, it still has potential problems that need to be addressed, and OpenAI is taking steps to fine-tune its behavior. With its availability to paid subscribers and through an API, we can expect GPT-4 to be widely incorporated into various tech products in the near future.

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