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Hurt People Always Hurt Others. Heal First.

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Today i want us to discuss the topic “Hurt People Always Hurt Others so Heal First” . The events of the past two weeks starting from the #endsars movement, to the #endswat and then #endbadgovernance really showed how deeply hurt many citizens had been with the SARS endemic. A protest that started of peacefully escalated into full blown unrest that ended up crippling activities nationwide. These events pointed to the fact that the pain directed towards the citizenry by the now defunct SARS group cut real deep. On deep reflection, i couldn’t help but liken this to our personal lives and the pain we feel when we’re let down by people or taken advantage of.

This led me to asking the question, “Why do people hurt others”?.

Emotionally damaged people have always been known to hurt other people and cause them much pain. I have seen adults who grew up under a lot of emotional abuse doing the same to their spouses, sexually abused kids growing up to become women who use sex as a tool for control or men who sexually molest others.

These people who underwent a lot of abuse as children grow up not processing and unpacking their pain & for any pain not processed, the sufferer will mask it. Masked pain stemming from abuse leads many into correctional positions. clerics, military, teachers, fathers, mothers etc. because they seek for some form of restitution with every help they render. Unfortunately, pain and hurt need to be confronted and not masked. This has become the reason for a lot of abuse, rape, rage prevalent in society.

SPIRITUAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL

This directed my thoughts to the concept of spirituality in Nigeria and Africa at large. We are the most spiritual people. Every kilometer littered with churches, mosques, herbalists but yet with actions very dissociated from spirituality. Why are we a spiritual people yet have some of the ugliest people (in terms of character) around. I personally believe it’s partly because;

“We have been taught to battle psychological problems with spirituality, is there something wrong with combining both spiritual and psychoanalytic approaches to solution finding? Absolutely not! -Temple Obike

Emotional health needs have been starved for a long time and people with emotional needs made to appear weak. This made them mask these emotions and hurt people around them as ways of feeling better with themselves.

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NOW I KNOW I’M HURTING OTHERS BECAUSE I’M ALSO IN PAIN

I speak to people who have imprisoned themselves in their pain everyday. I show them ways to release themselves from the shackles they’ve placed themselves in. In extreme cases, i have to take them back to their place of emotional pain so they experience it again after which they forgive themselves and the person who hurt them. With all of this, i have learnt a few things about pain and people who hurt that i would love to share;

A) Suspicion: Hurt people look at every motive and action through the pain they have gone through in the course of their lives. This keeps them eternally on guard with their emotions.

Solution: You need to understand that not everyone is out to hurt you. There are some good people around and when good people around you have to walk on egg shells, they would most likely make mistakes that would further entrench your suspicion.

B) Aggression: That angry response, harsh tone of voice, rage directed towards people around them is simply a case of rage and aggression transference.

Solution: You may need to get some anger management help to help you unbundle your emotions and better express it.

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C) Mis-interpretation: One of the first things i look out for are an individuals interpretation of things happening around and to them. When an individuals interpretation of personal experiences are more personalized than objective, it usually points to misinterpretation and signals the existence of some present hurt which has not been addressed.

Solution: Sometimes a heartfelt discussion with someone you trust, is wiser than you and has demonstrated competence in the area you struggle with. This could help you get a clearer perspective but beyond discussing with them, put down your defenses, assume the role of a child in a classroom who wants to learn and you will leave with a valid lesson.

D) Sensitivity : This is similar to misinterpretation but goes a bit deeper because the ego is the key consideration here. Hurt people have a fragile ego which leads them to believe every action is a direct hit at their personhood. This makes them attack people close to them and retain people who are psychologically manipulative close because they are the ones who play to their ego.

Solution: A discussion with a trusted, wiser authority figure, friend or parent would do great good. As mentioned in the solution for mis-interpretation, a learning attitude would help.

E) Stunted Emotional Growth: I have spoke to 50-something year old’s whose emotional disposition are those of a 12 years old. This isn’t something that’s to be treated lightly i learned over the years. A man who was abused sexually at age 10 stops growing emotionally at that point as much as he may cover it up with musculature, acquisitions and more. This becomes obvious the moment any situation directly hits at their emotions because their level of emotional maturity is made obvious.

Solution: This requires the ability to first acknowledge the existing hurt and seeking help from professionals.

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F) A Victim-Mentality: When in the presence of hurt people, they usually feel victimized. It is important to note that most of the people who rally others to a cause are usually doing this from a “victim’s” perspective. So before you sign up for a cause, it’s usually best to determine the conveners angle and to your best ability his core principles.

Solution: This also requires the ability to first acknowledge the existing hurt and seeking help from professionals.

G) Triggers: When you are yet to completely heal from a hurt, certain actions, scenarios, words or memories will get you acting out. People over-react when certain words are spoken to them because it reminds them of something that caused them pain which is yet to be dealt with.

Solution: Learn to delay your actions with some skills that would engage the logical side of you. Something as simple as counting backwards from 5 to zero in your mind could quickly douse the severity of the response or reaction you would have given.

H) Using Career, Work and Accomplishments to Fight Low Self Esteem: As strange as this may sound, many successful people around you are individuals who have propelled themselves forward using anger, esteem issues, hate, bitterness etc. as fuel. They become so engrossed in their career life that they rarely have time for anything else because it helps them numb the pain of their hurt. Their success is their elixir. Unfortunately, 95% of the time success never really heals hurt but rather presents a greater risk of making the individual appear less rational and humane.

Solution: Speak to a professional who can assist you because the higher up the ladder you go, the more unforgiving the people around you become with your mistakes. Afterall, you should know better than to display hurt and immaturity considering your position.

I) Alienating Loved Ones & Depression: Hurt people usually have a self-destructive streak that pushes away people who care for them. This is a trait that ties into a school of thought that says “hurting people not knowing how to receive love”. Seeing other people willing to show them love is a painful concept to them. This reason here is one of the reasons many marriages are hurting. This is also leads them to a point of depression.

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Solution: The solution to this is understanding that vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a form of strength that allows relationships and marriages heal as well as the hurting individual reveal where they hurt. This is an activity which should be carried out under a professional setting or with individuals who truly respect, love and care about you.

J) Alcohol, Pornography, Drugs, Sexual Deviancy or Overt Spirituality Become an Escape: Hurt people use all these as a form of escape that separates them from their present reality. They indulge in these vices to an extent it leaves them numb to their pain momentarily. Unfortunately, the hurt hasn’t been dealt with and will surface the moment everything else wears off.

Solution: Get professional help because every vice mentioned above has the tendency to become a full-blown addiction.

With my practice, I distance religion/spirituality from logic but there are some junctions where these always cross paths. Hurt people are usually the ones I see mostly in search of deeper meaning and reasons for their existence. The next points buttress this;

K) Hurt Introduces Spiritual Depth: Many hurt individuals are driven to a point beyond mere emotional pain. The depths of their anguish makes them question the reasons for their existence. With questions like this, many hurt people venture into spiritual pursuits all in a bid to further understand themselves. For others, it’s the passage of time that makes them seek out redemption from anywhere because they are now old enough to tell themselves the truth about who they really are. Middle aged individuals fall more into this category than their elderly counterparts in their 60’s.

Solution: This is the time to speak to a professional or a trusted advisor who would give a holistic view on your current spiritual pursuits.

L) Hurt People Can’t Forgive: This is an action that has led many people to poisoning their own systems. Hurt people find it hard to let go of hurtful memories. These memories are triggered when they see, hear or read about anything or anyone associated with inflicting the hurt. The ability to let go of negative emotions felt towards others is key to maintaining a mentally balanced and healthy life.

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Solution: You have to first of all stop beating up yourself due to the hurt you feel. Aptly put, stop blaming yourself for feeling the way you do. Secondly, you will have to forgive the ones who caused you the hurt because if you do not, you are the victim not them. However, the moment you forgive, you immediately let go of negative emotions and free yourself up to become more. A professional can help you achieve this or you could also speak to a trusted authority figure in your life.

As always, i hope this piece on “Hurt People Always Hurt Others. Heal First.” helped someone. If you are struggling with hurt, you will find it difficult to accept genuine love, care and concern when it’s given. Getting into a relationship or marriage does not heal you, it only further reveals a need.

Written by Obike Temple

A Psychotherapist, counselor and entrepreneur who has counseled over three-hundred couples, individuals, substance abuse and grief-stricken clients.

For more information on related issues and to schedule an appointment with “Temple’s Counsel” visit our counseling page, chat us up via our website or send a whatsapp message to +2348109055475.

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A Hero Complex Always Makes You Want to ‘Save’ People

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The Hero Complex, sometimes called the Hero Syndrome or Savior Complex, is when someone strives to be the hero of the situation. No matter the situation or the odds, they want to be the ones that save the day. In some definitions, a person with a hero complex will even create situations that inconvenience or harm others, just so they can take credit for fixing it later.

Is the Hero Complex a mental disorder?

No. While the Hero Complex is mainly a psychological phenomenon, it is not a diagnosable disorder or a clinical term. However, the reported symptoms of the Hero Complex (such as an exaggerated sense of self-worth), is similar to a grandiose delusion, also known as delusions of grandeur. Patients of GD consider themselves famous, wealthy, and powerful, sometimes even referring to themselves in divine terms.

The Hero Syndrome in the Workplace

Many believe that Hero Syndrome is commonly found in people with civil service jobs: police, firemen, and doctors. But the truth is that Hero Syndrome will be found just about anywhere with an office. You may work for them, or they may work for you. In fact, you may even have a Hero Complex!

Although it may seem negative, the Hero Complex is not necessarily a cause for concern. Some people simply want more recognition than others, which is common in an individualistic and capitalist culture. However, there are cases when Hero Complex could result in some dangerous situations.

The Dangers of the Hero Complex

Bitter and hostile environments – As you can imagine, having one person consistently boast about their achievements and abilities can grow old pretty quickly. In teams that require communication and teamwork, the one with Hero Complex may annoy and alienate his teammates.

An illusion of productivity – People with hero complexes may have an inflated sense of their heroism. Although they may remember saving the project before a deadline, other team members may remember them as the source for the delays in the first place.

Arrogance clouding judgment – Those concerned about their self-worth may prioritize their ego over their peers. The result- a focus on vanity metrics and titles over actual work. For example, a doctor may be so focused on getting a promotion that they may neglect their managerial duties in the hospital.

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How to Identify the Hero Complex

Remember, the Hero Complex is not a diagnosable condition, so there’s no surefire way of knowing whether someone “has” the complex. But there are signs that may suggest a person is more likely to have the Hero Complex.

Showboating. People with Hero Complex like recognition- for their work, their clothes, their lifestyle.
Preaching or saving. Some people call it the Savior Complex because of their need to rescue those in need. They may be too quick to give advice or care more about the photo op at a charity event.

Narcissism. While showing off and helping others isn’t exactly a crime, it becomes questionable when the person is vain or self-centered. Narcissism is one of the telltale signs for a Hero Complex.

How to deal with the hero complex

Once again, not everyone with a hero complex will stir trouble. It’s perfectly acceptable if anybody is self-centered or boastful. Only when it begins to affect the work of the business do you need to consider your options.

If you suspect someone of having a disruptive hero complex, first assess why you came to that conclusion- is their behavior affecting the rest of the team’s mood? Does it result in less than acceptable work?

Talk to the person, or if you have an HR department, have someone mediate the conversation first. Let them know that while strong personalities are welcome, it should never make others feel miserable or less productive.

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Uganda says Ebola caseload rises to 16 as outbreak grows

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Uganda said on Sunday its Ebola caseload had jumped to 16 people while a further 18 people also likely had the disease, fuelling fears of a spreading outbreak that involves a strain for which a vaccine has not yet been found.

In a tweet, the ministry of health also said the death toll of confirmed cases remained four while 17 others classified as probable cases had also died. The outbreak had also now spread to three districts, all in central Uganda.

The east African country last week announced the outbreak of Ebola, a haemorrhagic fever whose symptoms include intense body weakness, muscle pain, headache and sore throat, vomiting, diarrhoea and rashes among others.

The current outbreak, attributed to the Ebola Sudan strain, appears to have started in a small village in Mubende district around the beginning of September, authorities have said.

The first casualty was a 24-year old man who died earlier this week.

The World Health Organization says the Ebola Sudan strain is less transmissible and has shown a lower fatality rate in previous outbreaks than Ebola Zaire, a strain that killed nearly 2,300 people in the 2018-2020 epidemic in neighbouring Democratic Republic of Congo.

Our Source: Reuters

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Teenage Marijuana Use: How to Keep Your Children Safe in a World That Normalizes Its Use

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I want us to talk about teenage marijuana use and how to keep your children safe in a world that normalizes it’s use. Schools are on holidays and children are home. Many observant parents use this period in discovering unsettling truths about their teenagers from drugs, sexual activity or cultism (yes, even for the secondary school students). The cases around teenage marijuana use has become unsettling and seeing the level of desensitization around this topic does not help either.

Firstly, don’t get me started on the medicinal uses of Marijuana because we have researched, released publications and spoken on this as well. Today we will be focusing on our adolescents and teenagers. After all, I believe that even a parent who uses marijuana for whatever reason deep down does not want their child dependent on it.

It goes by many names Marijuana, Mary-J, weed, pot, dope, grass. They’re all different names for the same drug that comes from the cannabis plant. Smoke it, vape it, drink it or eat it, weed is still weed. Many now use it for relaxation or pleasure thereby desensitizing the society on it’s harmful side-effects. Drug Abuse in teenagers is a growing concern. The only way to even begin to prevent this occurrence is by having candid conversations around the topic with your ward.

Connecting with a teenager or adolescent during their formative years is important but many parents and guardians struggle to achieve this only after the emergence of a deadly habit. – Temple  Obike

Connecting with your kids and making them free to have all kinds of conversations with you is a sure-fire way of reducing their chances of involvement with drugs or making mistakes. This activity must be carried out even up until their university days and we’ll into their adult life anytime the chance avails itself. An effort must be put into understanding their social and extracurricular events. This level of monitoring (it may not sound nice but it is beneficial in the long-run) can wield a measure of influence on the child positively.

WAYS TO STOP TEENAGERS FROM USING MARIJUANA

Build-up Their Self-confidence

As a dad of 3 amazing adolescents and 1 newbie teenager, i believed that the first step was for me to even get this children to become confident. I wouldn’t always be there but i could leave a mind-set that allows them make certain decisions based on what they know and not what someone thinks of them or asked them to do. This is one of the main reasons individuals get into drug use due to peer pressure.

The your teenage always ensure that you do the following;

  • Engage in conversations about topics of interest.
  • Show them failure is not final and let them watch you recover from mistakes.
  • Encourage decision-making on their part
  • Listen when they voice their opinions.
  • Support team activities for them.
  • Exemplify “healthy” giving and reception of compliments
  • Always praise efforts but don’t celebrate mediocrity.
  • Demonstrate positive self-talk for them

With these, you are well on your way to having kids who are very confident.

Have Regular Conversations With Them

Having a fairly regular conversation around “taboo topics” with your adolescents is going to be one of your biggest strategies in ensuring that they do not use marijuana or any other drug. Tell them about various strains, it’s medicinal use and the adverse side effects of using it.

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Marijuana is the most commonly used illicit drug and more than 39% of  it’s users started before Senior Secondary 1 class.

Any question from your kid that gives you the opportunity to delve into the adverse effects of drugs MUST be taken.

Discuss it’s Adverse Effects & Risks

The media has desensitized the populace especially children, adolescents and teenagers on the adverse effects of drug use. With different countries legalizing marijuana, many teens assume it is safe.

The celebrities and influencers haven’t also helped in passing this message across because it is mostly “glorified” in white light as something relied upon for depth and inspiration. Marijuana like other substances such as coffee, alcohol, steroids, cigarettes’ etc. is always going to be dangerous if used recreationally. Legal does not always mean safe. This is the mantra you must entrench in their minds because that’s the angle peer pressure will mostly be introduced from.

Marijuana will alter your sense of judgement, predispose you to risky sexual activity, affect your motor coordination, induce psychosis and amplify paranoia. Take it as both a professional and experiential advice from someone who was once a youth and faced peer pressure on a local and international scale.

– Temple Obike

THE TRUTH

Tell your teenager that their brain is still developing and Marijuana use will impair their brain function. this happens because it changes the development pattern and leads to a potential addiction. Tell them their short-term memory will be affected  making it difficult for them to retain what they’ve learnt. What this means in the long run is that the teenager will struggle with learning and this increases their chances of giving up on education.

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Simply put, Marijuana is an IQ assassin.

It’s A Plant So Can’t Do No Harm (That’s not True)

This is one of the points that would be raised by their friends or others trying to lure them into this lane. Make your teenager understand that the fact marijuana is a plant does not make it safe. There are many dangerous plants used for medicinal purposes.

Some ingredients in cannabis are very psychoactive (mind-altering), but others are not. The processing and growth  factors relied upon by the manufacturer/farmer is what determines how potent or balanced the plant is. It is therefore not farfetched to believe that a local street dealer would go for the finest strain. This is the reason you have it come with menacing street names such as Igbo! Kpoli ! Kush! Deaf! Eja! Pot! Weed! Ganja! Hemp! Dope! Grass! Reefer! Ewe! Oja! Wee-Wee! (Feel free to expand).

Know Who Their Friends Are

This is one of the most important things you could do for your child. Do not stop at the image their friends sell to you. Get to know their parents, their home set-up, value systems etc.  Make your home open for friends to come visit (all genders). Watch the dynamics of their relationship. Does your teenager suddenly forget everything you taught them, act mean to their siblings, lose themselves, become less confident in the presence of this friend? Sorry to sound overbearing and while i believe that you can only do what you can do, I also know that with kids, your opportunities for impact dwindle as they get older.

It’s becoming a bit too frequent in my practice to see clients sit down and surprisingly bash a parent who was too nice. The one who allowed them get away with everything suddenly becomes the enemy.

After you have noticed everything you need to know about their friends, you can then suggest (not enforce) who you believe is a good option for them. This is one of the true tests of how highly they trust your input. Teach them that the real qualities to look out for when choosing a friend are loyalty, respect, honesty and integrity. Personally, I love all these qualities but won’t pretend that a kid who loves God automatically fits into our household. A good friend could support your kid at a time when they need someone else to be strong for them and this is why you must be sure of who they mix up with.

    Rules, Limits and discipline are a Must

    Many parents who raised kids who are now in my current age bracket made loads of mistakes. However these mistakes are things most of these children can look back at now and laugh about. In contrast, it beats me on how a generation who is obviously informed, read, exposed and more suddenly threw away one of the most important things that made them the people they are becoming today. Rules and Limits.

    A walk through the mall and you see a kid punching a parent for denying them an opportunity to have candy. In a desperate attempt at conviction you suddenly then hear the parent shouting in the best accent money can buy on the kid. In a bid to maybe convince everyone around on the level of effort they put in at home. The real issue is that the first lesson was lost. You do not take unless mama or papa gives their permission. Those are rules and limits. It comes first. – Temple Obike

    As much as i will never be caught trying to give my “not-sought-for” opinion on how another parent should raise their kids, it’s heart-breaking seeing kids being praised for mediocre achievement. Kids not getting spanked a little for bad behavior because it’s no longer cool. Wow! We think the world is filled with narcissists’ but it’s painful seeing spouses who claim their partners are narcissists raising the next super-generation of narcissists. Parents, rules, limits and discipline when necessary are still a MUST.

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    Here are some rules that could help you ensure that you’re not to out of the joint with your teenagers development;

    • Let’s create a code that once you say it, I will know you are in danger and need me to help you exit somewhere e.g Calling me and saying  “Daddy, are we still going? Ok i am ready”
    • Do not allow friends come to the house if i or your mum are not home (this helps with curbing sexual abuse too).
    • A no uncles/aunties home once the kids hit ages 5 and above (sad as it sounds but that’s the reality of the times)
    • We need at least 48 hours to allow sleep-overs. This allows me talk to the other parents and check out the situation before giving my consent. (personally, my kids do not sleep in no-ones house until they are of age).
    • If you go out, your location must be activated and your Life360app must be active
    • If there will be no parent at the party, you are not going
    • Memorize your parents phone numbers and recite it before going out.
    • Always give me the address of ANYWHERE you will be going to.
    • Whatever movies/shows you watch MUST be run through mum and dad
    • Whatever songs you listen to MUST be age-appropriate and because it’s trending or known by everyone else in school still does NOT make it okay.

    Setting rules is important but administering punishments when they are broken will make your teens more likely to adhere to family rules. On the other hand, reward good choices sparingly when your teen makes them.

    Enlist for Drug Prevention Programs

    Getting involved in drug abuse prevention programs in your community or your child’s school is a key step to curbing this menace. Most of these programmes will randomly test participants on a monthly basis and this keeps teens accountable. Even when under pressure by peers, they would most likely not indulge because they do not want to fail random drug tests.

    SIGNS YOUR TEENAGER MAY BE ON DRUGS

    These signs come as either behavioral or physical indicators. Many parents in therapy mention that they didn’t see the signs that something was wrong with their teenager despite the fact that the teenager would have exhibited both types of signs. These signs are a whole lot and just one of them is enough to get your antenna’s up.  Missing out on all of them is simply carelessness:

    Behavioral Indicators:

    • Avoiding eye contact
    • Ignoring or breaking curfew
    • Acting irresponsibly
    • Frequently asking for money
    • Stealing
    • Locking bedroom doors
    • Making secretive calls
    • Isolating from others/damaging relationships with family or friends
    • Making excuses (or outright lying)
    • Withdrawing from classroom participation/slipping in grades
    • Resisting discipline or feedback
    • Missing school or work
    • Losing interest in hobbies or activities
    • Abandoning long-time friends

    Physical Indicators:

    • Poor hygiene/change in appearance
    • Glazed or bloodshot eyes
    • Frequent runny nose or nosebleeds
    • Paranoia, irritability, anxiety, fidgeting
    • Changes in mood or attitude
    • Difficulty staying on task/staying focused
    • Small track marks on arms or legs (wears long sleeves even in warm weather)
    • Pupils larger or smaller than usual
    • Cold, sweaty palms or shaking hands
    • Sores on mouth
    • Headaches
    • Puffy, swollen face
    • Extremely tired or extremely hyperactive
    • Rapid weight gain or loss

     

    Well, this article may have been a buzz-kill but trust me when i say it was absolutely necessary. Primary school kids are now being introduced to marijuana, tramadol, hemp etc. The world we live in today is so spontaneous that you can’t protect these kids enough. They must be armed with the truth that will allow them make good decisions for themselves. Regardless of where you are at this moment, I can guarantee you that less than 2 miles from you is a dealer who knows at least 1 person who knows your teenager.

    If you’d like to speak with someone regarding your teenagers drug use or behavioral issues, feel free to contact us via email.

    Written by Obike Temple.
    Temple Obike is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, author and psychotherapist who has counseled over one thousand, two hundred clients comprising of couples, individuals, abuse victims (substance, physical, emotional and sexual) and grief-stricken clients. With over 100,000 in-counseling minutes accrued in practice.
    He runs his private psychotherapy & counseling practice out of Lagos, Nigeria and has counseling centers in Abuja and Port-Harcourt. His practice also provides options for both online and on-site services.His private practice has positively empowered lives through his online counseling, podcasts, free advisory services and free online materials.  
    Readership of his articles also receive a growing number of visitors alongside subscriptions to his email newsletter at templescounsel.com. His passion for empowering and uncovering the secrets to lifelong marriages and personal development led to his new book titled “Soul Bodega” available on amazon and across other online and traditional stores.Never give up on yourself! You are a journey happening through various destinations.Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit our website for more info!
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    9 Top Foods To Stop Premature Ejaculation And Foods To Avoid

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    Are you not able to hold the erection earlier than you and your partner would like? Beware! You likely suffer from premature ejaculation. Sex, therefore, may not be fulfilling for your partner and you. Although it is not corporally threatening, couples felt disappointed and humiliated.

    Besides, in men, it can also contribute to low self-esteem. You may experience erectile dysfunction if you feel nervous, depressed, recovering from an injury, or have a hormonal imbalance. 1 out of 3 men may encounter this condition at some stage in their lives, according to studies.

    You should see your andrologist and receive adequate care. You will improve low libido by avoiding feeling shy or ashamed and reaching out for professional sexologist support as soon as possible.

    There can be many causes of premature Ejaculations. It can be biological, psychological, or even because of an injury in your penile. If you have just started seeing the symptoms of premature ejaculation and you are at an early stage of sexual disease, then there are some natural ways to cure it.
    Following the proper food guide and indulging in a few sets of exercises has helped many to cure certain dysfunction. Premature Ejaculation can also be cured if you follow a healthy diet and include aphrodisiac food in your daily routine.

    You may start with a super premature ejaculation foods i.e. Garlic; it is filled with aphrodisiac properties and will assist you in expanding the length of your intercourse without premature ejaculation. Thanks to this anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory plant that will help improve your blood circulation. Try to eat one clove of garlic daily, but don’t go overboard.

    Premature Ejaculation Foods You Must Eat

    Taking asparagus, carrots, and food rich in vitamin A and C in your daily diet can help curb premature ejaculation. Below is the list of food items that have helped many to cure early climax problems. These premature ejaculation food items maintain the blood flow and hormonal level, which helps you to take control of the excitement and ejaculation.

    1. Have asparagus in your diet

    food for Premature ejaculation , especially asparagus, is jam-packed with high vitamin A, which is essential for testosterone control. Vitamin C is also abundant in asparagus, which can allegedly increase your sperm count and raise your blood pressure. You should boil the plant’s roots in milk and drink it. Doing so will help you in a better way to regulate your penile muscles.

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    2. Load up on carrots

    Carrots are filled with antioxidants and beta-carotene, which, during intercourse, can increase blood flow to the genitals. Thus, when you eat boiled carrots with honey and egg, you could curb premature ejaculation. Do not forget to give this remedy a try!
    You can opt for Oatmeal.
    When you add Oatmeal to your diet, you will increase the testosterone levels in the bloodstream. No other premature ejaculation food is better than Oatmeal at calming your penis muscles and strengthening you and energizing you.

    3. You can opt for watermelon.

    A phytonutrient called citrulline is borne by watermelons, which can help improve your libido. You may eat slices of watermelon or add this premature ejaculation food to your fruit salad, and you can see beneficial effects.

    4. You can combine ginger and honey.

    We consider ginger and honey to be aphrodisiacs, and they can increase libido and boost your performance when they are combined. You can grate the ginger and apply it to something homely. Have this mixture, then, and you will soon be able to see the difference.

    5. Go for green onions.

    In nature, green onion seeds are aphrodisiac and can assist in reducing premature ejaculation. The seeds will increase your sexual capacity, power, and stamina. So, with water, mix some crushed green onion seeds and drink the magical solution.

    6. Go Bananas!

    Bananas are potassium-rich. This refers to the management of blood flow. They also produce an enzyme called bromelain, which helps to increase libido and minimize premature ejaculation.
    Not only does eating bananas regularly increase your endurance, but it also raises your levels of stamina and low testosterone. Boosting the sperm count is also known.

    7. Opt for Avocado

    We also know the avocado as the miracle fruit and is very helpful for your wellbeing. It is rich in vitamins that assist in blood flow regulation.
    Avocado also comprises several healthy fats that give you an energy boost, as well as folic acid. It also helps with metabolic processes.

    This PE food also helps to cure retrograde ejaculation problems, Delayed ejaculation problems, and painful ejaculation problems.

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    8. Load Up on Walnuts

    Walnuts are excellent and nutritious. They are high in fat, nutrition, vitamins, and minerals that are good for you. They have high antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, and omega-3 properties. To boost your general wellbeing, this profile helps. They help alleviate male infertility, erectile dysfunction, and men’s penis problems.
    As a snack between your meals, eating walnuts frequently can also help increase sperm and mobility quality.

    9. Eat Dark Chocolate

    American author E. Lockhart referred to dark chocolate as “white chocolate.” Sweet, intense. Not deep though. Okay, but not to get serious about prom dates or flings. Milk chocolates are like guys you might date for a couple of months, and dark chocolates are for love.
    The Dark Chocolates are also for passion. They are filled with micronutrients that make them a potent aphrodisiac. Munching on them will make you feel good about yourself and feel sensual. It releases endorphins that lower the levels of stress and anxiety.
    It doesn’t stop there alone. Dark chocolate can positively influence you’re well being. This is one of the most potent sources of antioxidants.

    Food to Avoid to Cure Premature Ejaculation

    Premature Ejaculation occurs when you cannot control the excitement, and you come quickly. We can assume it is a very high sex drive and high level of testosterone or low libido and low testosterone levels, responsible for it. In both cases what we require is an optimal level of testosterone. To maintain erection we should stop the following food items

    • Avoid sugar and starchy food
    • Avoid smoking and drinking
    • Avoid Junk Food
    • Avoid stress and depression.

    Pelvic bones with no strength and control can also contribute to the quick release of cum. In such cases, we suggest avoiding huge intakes of food that increase testosterone levels and sexual drive.

    Take Away

    Premature Ejaculation Treatment At IASH

    Treatment for premature ejaculation usually depends upon the man’s relationship status and the cause of the condition (whether it is lifelong or acquired). There are several treatments available for premature ejaculation including SEX THERAPY, BEHAVIORAL TECHNIQUES, PELVIC FLOOR REHABILITATION PROGRAM( PELVIC GYM), TOPICAL THERAPY (use of lignocaine based sprays over the penis), ORAL MEDICINES, and SURGERIES.

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