There are so many little life skills that we, as adults, have managed to master over the years. How to put on a jacket. How to tie our shoes. How to blow a bubble with our gum and snap our fingers. (Okay, those last two might not really be “life skills,” but they’re important, nonetheless.) And yet, they’re kind of hard to teach.
“Let’s see, to whistle, you just kind of purse your lips like this and, I don’t know, sort of blow air through the opening… no, more slowly than that… purse your lips a little more, maybe… eh, you’ll figure it out at some point,” we say.
One such life skill we can’t wait around for them to figure out on their own, though, is how to blow their noses. Because snotty noses are gross and we are not interested in wiping them forever.
This tip comes from Today’s Parent and was part of a 30-part slideshow full of back-to-school hacks. But really, this one is an all-year-round hack: Teach them with a cotton ball.
1. Familiarize her with the idea of blowing air out of her nose by getting her to move a cotton ball with only nose air (keeping her mouth closed).
2. Now she’s ready to try with a tissue. Have her gently press one nostril closed while she blows with the other, then switch sides.
3. Have her dispose of her tissue once she’s done and wash her hands to prevent the spread of germs.
If you don’t have cotton balls handy, you could also try putting a clean tissue on a table and have them practice blowing out of their nose to move the tissue. Hell, make a game out of it by racing to see who can blow the tissue across the table the fastest.
Once they’re proficient at that, you can get back to teaching them how to whistle.
Teenage Marijuana Use: How to Keep Your Children Safe in a World That Normalizes Its Use
I want us to talk about teenage marijuana use and how to keep your children safe in a world that normalizes it’s use. Schools are on holidays and children are home. Many observant parents use this period in discovering unsettling truths about their teenagers from drugs, sexual activity or cultism (yes, even for the secondary school students). The cases around teenage marijuana use has become unsettling and seeing the level of desensitization around this topic does not help either.
Firstly, don’t get me started on the medicinal uses of Marijuana because we have researched, released publications and spoken on this as well. Today we will be focusing on our adolescents and teenagers. After all, I believe that even a parent who uses marijuana for whatever reason deep down does not want their child dependent on it.
It goes by many names Marijuana, Mary-J, weed, pot, dope, grass. They’re all different names for the same drug that comes from the cannabis plant. Smoke it, vape it, drink it or eat it, weed is still weed. Many now use it for relaxation or pleasure thereby desensitizing the society on it’s harmful side-effects. Drug Abuse in teenagers is a growing concern. The only way to even begin to prevent this occurrence is by having candid conversations around the topic with your ward.
Connecting with a teenager or adolescent during their formative years is important but many parents and guardians struggle to achieve this only after the emergence of a deadly habit. – Temple Obike
Connecting with your kids and making them free to have all kinds of conversations with you is a sure-fire way of reducing their chances of involvement with drugs or making mistakes. This activity must be carried out even up until their university days and we’ll into their adult life anytime the chance avails itself. An effort must be put into understanding their social and extracurricular events. This level of monitoring (it may not sound nice but it is beneficial in the long-run) can wield a measure of influence on the child positively.
WAYS TO STOP TEENAGERS FROM USING MARIJUANA
Build-up Their Self-confidence
As a dad of 3 amazing adolescents and 1 newbie teenager, i believed that the first step was for me to even get this children to become confident. I wouldn’t always be there but i could leave a mind-set that allows them make certain decisions based on what they know and not what someone thinks of them or asked them to do. This is one of the main reasons individuals get into drug use due to peer pressure.
The your teenage always ensure that you do the following;
- Engage in conversations about topics of interest.
- Show them failure is not final and let them watch you recover from mistakes.
- Encourage decision-making on their part
- Listen when they voice their opinions.
- Support team activities for them.
- Exemplify “healthy” giving and reception of compliments
- Always praise efforts but don’t celebrate mediocrity.
- Demonstrate positive self-talk for them
With these, you are well on your way to having kids who are very confident.
Have Regular Conversations With Them
Having a fairly regular conversation around “taboo topics” with your adolescents is going to be one of your biggest strategies in ensuring that they do not use marijuana or any other drug. Tell them about various strains, it’s medicinal use and the adverse side effects of using it.
Marijuana is the most commonly used illicit drug and more than 39% of it’s users started before Senior Secondary 1 class.
Any question from your kid that gives you the opportunity to delve into the adverse effects of drugs MUST be taken.
Discuss it’s Adverse Effects & Risks
The media has desensitized the populace especially children, adolescents and teenagers on the adverse effects of drug use. With different countries legalizing marijuana, many teens assume it is safe.
The celebrities and influencers haven’t also helped in passing this message across because it is mostly “glorified” in white light as something relied upon for depth and inspiration. Marijuana like other substances such as coffee, alcohol, steroids, cigarettes’ etc. is always going to be dangerous if used recreationally. Legal does not always mean safe. This is the mantra you must entrench in their minds because that’s the angle peer pressure will mostly be introduced from.
Marijuana will alter your sense of judgement, predispose you to risky sexual activity, affect your motor coordination, induce psychosis and amplify paranoia. Take it as both a professional and experiential advice from someone who was once a youth and faced peer pressure on a local and international scale.
– Temple Obike
Tell your teenager that their brain is still developing and Marijuana use will impair their brain function. this happens because it changes the development pattern and leads to a potential addiction. Tell them their short-term memory will be affected making it difficult for them to retain what they’ve learnt. What this means in the long run is that the teenager will struggle with learning and this increases their chances of giving up on education.
Simply put, Marijuana is an IQ assassin.
It’s A Plant So Can’t Do No Harm (That’s not True)
This is one of the points that would be raised by their friends or others trying to lure them into this lane. Make your teenager understand that the fact marijuana is a plant does not make it safe. There are many dangerous plants used for medicinal purposes.
Some ingredients in cannabis are very psychoactive (mind-altering), but others are not. The processing and growth factors relied upon by the manufacturer/farmer is what determines how potent or balanced the plant is. It is therefore not farfetched to believe that a local street dealer would go for the finest strain. This is the reason you have it come with menacing street names such as Igbo! Kpoli ! Kush! Deaf! Eja! Pot! Weed! Ganja! Hemp! Dope! Grass! Reefer! Ewe! Oja! Wee-Wee! (Feel free to expand).
Know Who Their Friends Are
This is one of the most important things you could do for your child. Do not stop at the image their friends sell to you. Get to know their parents, their home set-up, value systems etc. Make your home open for friends to come visit (all genders). Watch the dynamics of their relationship. Does your teenager suddenly forget everything you taught them, act mean to their siblings, lose themselves, become less confident in the presence of this friend? Sorry to sound overbearing and while i believe that you can only do what you can do, I also know that with kids, your opportunities for impact dwindle as they get older.
It’s becoming a bit too frequent in my practice to see clients sit down and surprisingly bash a parent who was too nice. The one who allowed them get away with everything suddenly becomes the enemy.
After you have noticed everything you need to know about their friends, you can then suggest (not enforce) who you believe is a good option for them. This is one of the true tests of how highly they trust your input. Teach them that the real qualities to look out for when choosing a friend are loyalty, respect, honesty and integrity. Personally, I love all these qualities but won’t pretend that a kid who loves God automatically fits into our household. A good friend could support your kid at a time when they need someone else to be strong for them and this is why you must be sure of who they mix up with.
Rules, Limits and discipline are a Must
Many parents who raised kids who are now in my current age bracket made loads of mistakes. However these mistakes are things most of these children can look back at now and laugh about. In contrast, it beats me on how a generation who is obviously informed, read, exposed and more suddenly threw away one of the most important things that made them the people they are becoming today. Rules and Limits.
A walk through the mall and you see a kid punching a parent for denying them an opportunity to have candy. In a desperate attempt at conviction you suddenly then hear the parent shouting in the best accent money can buy on the kid. In a bid to maybe convince everyone around on the level of effort they put in at home. The real issue is that the first lesson was lost. You do not take unless mama or papa gives their permission. Those are rules and limits. It comes first. – Temple Obike
As much as i will never be caught trying to give my “not-sought-for” opinion on how another parent should raise their kids, it’s heart-breaking seeing kids being praised for mediocre achievement. Kids not getting spanked a little for bad behavior because it’s no longer cool. Wow! We think the world is filled with narcissists’ but it’s painful seeing spouses who claim their partners are narcissists raising the next super-generation of narcissists. Parents, rules, limits and discipline when necessary are still a MUST.
Here are some rules that could help you ensure that you’re not to out of the joint with your teenagers development;
- Let’s create a code that once you say it, I will know you are in danger and need me to help you exit somewhere e.g Calling me and saying “Daddy, are we still going? Ok i am ready”
- Do not allow friends come to the house if i or your mum are not home (this helps with curbing sexual abuse too).
- A no uncles/aunties home once the kids hit ages 5 and above (sad as it sounds but that’s the reality of the times)
- We need at least 48 hours to allow sleep-overs. This allows me talk to the other parents and check out the situation before giving my consent. (personally, my kids do not sleep in no-ones house until they are of age).
- If you go out, your location must be activated and your Life360app must be active
- If there will be no parent at the party, you are not going
- Memorize your parents phone numbers and recite it before going out.
- Always give me the address of ANYWHERE you will be going to.
- Whatever movies/shows you watch MUST be run through mum and dad
- Whatever songs you listen to MUST be age-appropriate and because it’s trending or known by everyone else in school still does NOT make it okay.
Setting rules is important but administering punishments when they are broken will make your teens more likely to adhere to family rules. On the other hand, reward good choices sparingly when your teen makes them.
Enlist for Drug Prevention Programs
Getting involved in drug abuse prevention programs in your community or your child’s school is a key step to curbing this menace. Most of these programmes will randomly test participants on a monthly basis and this keeps teens accountable. Even when under pressure by peers, they would most likely not indulge because they do not want to fail random drug tests.
SIGNS YOUR TEENAGER MAY BE ON DRUGS
These signs come as either behavioral or physical indicators. Many parents in therapy mention that they didn’t see the signs that something was wrong with their teenager despite the fact that the teenager would have exhibited both types of signs. These signs are a whole lot and just one of them is enough to get your antenna’s up. Missing out on all of them is simply carelessness:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Ignoring or breaking curfew
- Acting irresponsibly
- Frequently asking for money
- Locking bedroom doors
- Making secretive calls
- Isolating from others/damaging relationships with family or friends
- Making excuses (or outright lying)
- Withdrawing from classroom participation/slipping in grades
- Resisting discipline or feedback
- Missing school or work
- Losing interest in hobbies or activities
- Abandoning long-time friends
- Poor hygiene/change in appearance
- Glazed or bloodshot eyes
- Frequent runny nose or nosebleeds
- Paranoia, irritability, anxiety, fidgeting
- Changes in mood or attitude
- Difficulty staying on task/staying focused
- Small track marks on arms or legs (wears long sleeves even in warm weather)
- Pupils larger or smaller than usual
- Cold, sweaty palms or shaking hands
- Sores on mouth
- Puffy, swollen face
- Extremely tired or extremely hyperactive
- Rapid weight gain or loss
Well, this article may have been a buzz-kill but trust me when i say it was absolutely necessary. Primary school kids are now being introduced to marijuana, tramadol, hemp etc. The world we live in today is so spontaneous that you can’t protect these kids enough. They must be armed with the truth that will allow them make good decisions for themselves. Regardless of where you are at this moment, I can guarantee you that less than 2 miles from you is a dealer who knows at least 1 person who knows your teenager.
If you’d like to speak with someone regarding your teenagers drug use or behavioral issues, feel free to contact us via email.
California twins born in different years. LOL
Aylin Trujillo, a healthy baby girl from Greenfield, weighing 5 pounds and 14 ounces, was the first baby born in the new year in Monterey County.
Aylin arrived 15 minutes after her brother Alfredo, who was born on Dec. 31 at 11:45 p.m., weighing 6 pounds and 1 ounce.
Their birth is special because they were born on different days, months and years.
Twins with different birthdays are rare, and some estimate the chance of twins being born in different years as one in 2 million.
The twins were born at Natividad Hospital in Salinas.
4 reasons why a pregnant woman should make love regularly
Now that you’re pregnant, has your sex life gone into a deep freeze? If so, consider thawing it out.
In most cases, not only is a roll in the hay perfectly safe through your final trimester, it’s good for your mental health and your relationship. Here, our top four reasons to get down while you’re knocked up.
1. Pregnant sex will bolster your bond.
Many women become intensely focused on their pregnancies, which can make their partners feel left out, says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. “It’s important to share physical affection as a way of sustaining what is, after all, the core building block of your new family,” Schwartz says.
2. You’ll discover new sex positions.
The missionary position goes out the window pretty quickly (man-on-top puts too much pressure on your belly). Try sitting at the edge of your bed while your partner kneels or stands and enters you from the front, or the spoon position, with both of you lying on your sides as he enters you from behind.
3. Pregnant sex feels different — and sometimes even better.
Pregnancy increases blood flow to your pubic area, which heightens sensitivity, so some women experience enhanced orgasms, says Claire Jones, M.D., an OB-GYN at Mount Sinai Hospital in Toronto. Your vagina is also more lubricated because of your increased estrogen, and your breasts can be more sensitive.
4. Orgasms are a natural stress reliever.
Orgasms flood your body with oxytocin, a hormone that produces endorphins, which leave you feeling calm and happy. When you find yourself stressed out consider that sex releases endorphins that can make you feel more secure and even alleviate pain, Schwartz says.
7 Steps to get pregnant with blocked fallopian tubes
There are 7 steps that could allow you get pregnant even with a blocked fallopian tube. It’s not time to give up on your quest to have your baby. Even you too could carry your bundle of joy in a matter of months.
What Causes Blocked Fallopian Tubes?
Blockages can occur in the Fallopian tubes for a number of reasons, but the most common cause is pelvic inflammatory disease (PID).
Typically the result of a sexually transmitted disease, PID is a bacterial infection of the reproductive organs that affects the uterus and Fallopian tubes. The infection may lead to pelvic pain, abscess growth, scarring from adhesions, and may even cause an ectopic pregnancy if left untreated.
Additional causes of blocked Fallopian tubes include an ongoing or past experience of…
- Uterine infections
- STD infections
- Abdominal or pelvic surgeries
Step 1 – Understand why fallopian tubes are so important in getting pregnant
In natural unassisted conception, the fallopian tubes are a vital part of achieving pregnancy. The finger-like projections at the end of the tube “collect” the egg which is ovulated from the adjacent ovary. To do this, fallopian tubes must be freely movable, not stuck to the pelvic wall, uterus or ovaries by adhesions.
Once the egg is collected, the tube safeguards the egg until it is fertilised by sperm, where after it nurtures the resulting embryo as it moves through the length of the tube to the uterus over five days. To function as an incubator where the egg and sperm meet and the initial stages of embryo development takes place, the tubes must be open (patent). In addition, the inside lining of the fallopian tubes must act as a conveyor system, moving the developing embryo to the uterus where it implants 3 to 5 days after ovulation.
If your fallopian tubes are damaged or blocked (called tubal factor infertility) the egg and the sperm are prevented from interacting, and the proper movement of embryos along the tube to the uterus is obstructed, preventing a pregnancy.
Step 2 – Understand how fallopian tubes can be damaged or blocked
The fallopian tubes are delicate structures, as thin as the lead of a pencil. For this reason, they can easily become blocked or damaged, which is called tubal infertility and reduces the chances of the sperm reaching the egg, proper embryo development and implantation in the uterus.
Blockages may be due to scarring from infection or previous abdominal or pelvic surgery especially when the fallopian tubes or ovaries were involved. The competence of the surgeon is crucial in limiting post-operative damage.
The main cause of tubal infertility, however, is pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), which is also associated with an increased risk of subsequent ectopic pregnancy (when the fertilised egg implants in the fallopian tube instead of the uterus).
Also known as one of the causes of fallopian tube damage is the use of the intra-uterine contraceptive device (contraceptive “loop”), especially when there is more than one sexual partner. Other possible causes include endometriosis and sexually transmittable disease such as gonorrhoea resulting in infection of the fallopian tubes.
Step 3 – Contact a specialist fertility clinic
Given how crucially important your fallopian tubes are in falling pregnant, and how very delicate and easily damaged they are, it is clear that falling pregnant with damaged or blocked fallopian tubes will require the help of specialists.
Step 4 – Attend your initial consultation
At the initial consultation, let the IVF specialists table your options and start to plan your journey to parenthood.
During the 30 – 60 minute initial consultation, highly qualified and experienced fertility specialists should:
* do an extensive review of your medical history
* perform a comprehensive infertility physical exam and blood tests
* provide in-depth explanations and answers to all your questions
* detail the treatment options
* develop with you a personalised fertility treatment plan.
Step 5 – Determine if – and to what extent – your fallopian tubes are damaged or blocked
A qualified fertility specialist will be able to determine if your fallopian tubes are blocked or damaged, using a pelvic x-ray called a hysterosalpingogram (HSG). The test involves the injection of dye into the uterine cavity and a simultaneous x-ray of the uterus and tubes, allowing the specialist to see any damage or blockage.
It may be that the flexibility of the fallopian tube is reduced, so it can’t pick up the egg when it is released from the ovary. There may be a total blockage preventing the sperm and egg to meet and produce an embryo. It could also be that there is damage to the inside wall of the fallopian tube, which prevents the embryo from moving down to the uterus. This could result in an ectopic pregnancy, where the embryo attaches to the side wall of the fallopian tube, resulting in rupturing of the tube at about seven weeks pregnancy duration.
The position and severity of the damage or blockage will determine which treatment is right for you.
Step 6 – Choose your treatment
If it has been established that your Fallopian tubes are blocked or damaged, are two options for treatment to enable your pregnancy: tubal surgery and IVF treatment.
Get a fertility clinic that offers both advanced microsurgical treatments as well as in vitro fertilisation as therapy for tubal factor infertility.
Depending on the position of the damage or blockage – and the severity of the damage – it may be possible to repair a fallopian tube. Fortunately, there is an alternative to “open surgery”: minimally invasive surgery or laparoscopy.
Minimally invasive surgery or laparoscopy involves looking directly into your abdomen and pelvis using a small camera that is placed through an incision in your umbilicus. This allows a specialist to evaluate and potentially treat gynaecological problems such as scar tissue, adhesions and endometriosis.
For this operation you will require a general anaesthetic (you will be asleep), but in most cases you will go home the same day. After the incision is made (usually next to the navel), the laparoscope is inserted into the abdominal cavity. Either carbon dioxide or nitrous oxide gas is then passed into the cavity to separate the abdominal wall from the underlying organs. This makes examination of the internal organs easier. Anywhere between one and three more incisions are made to allow access to other surgical instruments, for example, a laser. Once a diagnosis is made or the problem is removed (or both), the instruments are taken out, the gas allowed to escape and the incisions sewn shut. The stitches may need to be removed at a later stage or else they will dissolve by themselves.
What to Expect After Surgery
Most women experience bloating, abdominal discomfort and/or back and shoulder tip pain for 24-48 hours after surgery. This is normal and is related to the gas used to distend your abdomen during the surgery. This pain should not be severe and should gradually improve over 24-48 hours. You may also feel abdominal bloating, nausea, abdominal cramps, or constipation.
Most patients are able to resume normal activities within a few days to one week. We recommend that you do not engage in any strenuous physical activity for about a week or so. Following a pelvic laparoscopy, we recommend you use sanitary towels instead of tampons to cope with any vaginal bleeding or discharge.
It is absolutely essential that only a competent qualified fertility specialist perform this advanced surgery.
If surgery is not feasible because of extensive damage to your Fallopian tubes, In Vitro-Fertilisation is another option.
In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) Treatment
In vitro fertilisation (IVF) treatment was originally developed for women with damaged or missing Fallopian tubes in 1983, and since then more than 5 million babies have been born worldwide as a result of IVF treatment, with success rates comparable – and even superior – to those of nature.
In the simplest terms, IVF treatment is a process of assisted reproduction where the egg and sperm are fertilised outside of the body to form an embryo, which is then transferred to the uterus to hopefully implant and become a pregnancy.
However, IVF treatment is not a single event, but rather a series of procedures that are completed over five stages to complete a treatment cycle.
IVF treatments commence with a course of hormone therapy to stimulate the development of several follicles in the ovary. Under ultrasound guidance, these are then punctured with a specialised needle to retrieve eggs, which are then fertilised in a petri dish (‘in vitro’ which literally means ‘in glass’) to create several embryos. After three to five days in an incubator, one or two of these embryos are transferred through the vagina to the uterus, where implantation occurs and pregnancy begins. The whole process from commencement of ovarian stimulation up to the embryo transfer stage usually takes just under three weeks.
Step 7 – Complete your treatment
Whether surgery or IVF treatment is the right option for you,ensure that you get state-of-the-art fertility treatment, in a caring and comfortable environment
Your next step
You have already completed the first two Steps to getting pregnant with blocked fallopian tubes: understanding why your fallopian tubes are so important to getting pregnant and how they can become damaged or blocked.
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